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Hi all, Been awhile. For those following my story, one bf has been kind of nice; I stepped back from my stupid job (was a manager, now I'm not; still over-worked, but no bone-crushing responsibility). So, there's a lovely woman at work. When I first got there, we became friends, it was clear...

Welcome to the forum, AstroTree. I'm glad you got all that out. Sounds painfully familiar. I have a rare genetic condition that causes chronic pain. My first diagnosis was fibromyalgia, and I have family with CFIDS and fibro. My ex talked about sex more than anyone I ever knew. And the...

What happens when the next time she finds texts from you on his phone and she decides to come after you or your family instead of beating on him? You need to consider protecting yourself and your existing family. Metamours are important.

Hi! You say this was only yesterday? Perhaps they actually do need some time to think on it, and feel on it. You were awesomely brave to put your heart out there. Perhaps they hadn't allowed themselves to consider the true possibility of a triad. Perhaps becoming aware of couple privilege will...

Oh jeebus. I am going to have to work so hard to keep a straight face at work now. I occasionally have to deal with conversations on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. :eek:

Someone just shared this on fb, and I knew I had to share it here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hXBFJT8MKSM&list=PL2832276AED3A9BAD&index=21 OKC profile critique

I am an ENFP, and my test was administered by an nurse who was doing her certification hours to be a psychologist or something. She was certified by the organization that 'owns' the Meyers-Briggs instrument. She showed me that my F/T scale was very close to the center, and explained that many...

It's entirely possible that it comes from you're uncomfortable with what she's doing; but instead of owning that, you're deflecting it off to 'feeling inexperienced and inadequate.' Just a theory, for your consideration. It's far easier to 'blame' ourselves, than to really see that we might be...

Welcome :D I think you're already quite brave for such an open introduction. (I did read the whole thing!) I think this forum is an awesome place, and you can learn quite a bit by reading around here. I remember I was quite giddy with NRE when I found this place and it helped me calm down a...

So far, no one has rejected me for it. I do, however, have one acquaintance for whom I've lost a lot of respect for the snide comments I get since I outed myself to her. Fortunately, we're not close. When I started, and was on an NRE high with the mere fact that my loves were POSSIBLE, I...

NYCindie, that was an awesome distillation of the knowledge I've watched you painfully gain for yourself (from your blog). Also, the synchronicity in my life is kind of amazing today. Someone in my local poly group posted an article that talks about this same concept in a different way (and I...

From my perspective, three years is not an awfully long time. I was with FBF for 2ish years, and he was very good friends with CBF. The three of us were friends, yes, but mostly they were very close. When I broke up with FBF, I got closer to CBF and we eventually became a couple. For about 6...

Hey nycindie, Congrats on getting serious. My knees were so grateful to me when I did! I did the hcg diet a few years ago, and found it amazing. I chose to do it under a doc's supervision because a) I have multiple physical issues and challenges, b) I needed the leverage on myself for the...

I'm not very regular at this blog thing. :D [follow up to the last post, CBF just last week told me a story about telling his boss 'who I am' - and used every possible name except 'ex-gf'. I think he's clear on the concept, I do; but because we're still friends, he, and, sadly, his mom, are...

but...can you dance and can you sing? Can you do the Highland Fling? ;) *waves*

Oh Marcus, I LOL'd so loud, I think I frightened the neighbors. onoma, My father spent a fair amount of time trying to teach me this, and I share it with you because I think he was right. People vote with their feet. If you want to know what someone is about, and their words and their...

I encourage you to be willing to have, feel, and express your feelings regardless of what effect it will (or will not) have on your partners. That's a level of honesty that seems to me to help poly work better for folks. You shouldn't have to feel like the 'bad guy.' I have worried far too...

I just had to share. When I started with my two boyfriends, they were best friends for over seven years, and I had been with each of them monogamously. (we were like the three musketeers) I was terrified of being with them together, after I started seeing both of them. We formed the vee in...

I found it an interesting story about a person and her life; but not a terribly interesting or informative commentary on society. Probably because we're part of the counterculture. Most of us have some experience very like that, and don't find it that unusual. In fact, I went to a wedding...

I'm so sorry you're hurting, and that your situation is just so icky. I'm glad to hear Helen left. I was going to suggest that. Why should you have to leave? I hope you get some peace, and soon.