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Frankly, with everyone having so much anxiety about holidays at the end of last year, I sort of thought there would be more threads like this. My VD was just fine. Today, however, brought an interesting conversation with CBF. (I broke up with him on New Year's Day, and we just ended our...

I find this website to be an amazing tool for just this sort of thing. www.recreateyourlife.com It is free for one (I think one) belief of your choice. I recommend choosing 'I'm not good enough.' I love to imagine a world in which no one believes they are not good enough. There's an...

Also, I realize I've never felt stifled in mono relationships, just always recognized that I have capacity to love more than one.

You bring up an interesting point, one that I've been working over for myself a lot. My sweet FBF is so much to me. (Oh yeah, NR, that's eloquent.) He touches my soul, my very soul, in deep and profound and wordless ways. He's not likely to ever be available for living together, and if he...

As I was reading your original post, I kept thinking 'monogamy is a perfectly valid choice.' You're not a 'failure' if you don't like polyamory. It's okay! That seems quite a leap to me; I didn't read what TN said as you need to use a relationship to feel better about yourself. You've also...

Sounds to me like maybe you should get upset on 'their' days more often, you'll get more hugs.... Seems to work for him. (sorry, can't help the snark) ***** I'm glad that you and she may have found a way to talk!

Sorry, BoyF, that sucks, family like that. I'm having a little trouble understanding why you would care what such people think of you. Do either of your girlfriends have families you could adopt? I absolutely adore CBF's family, and they have claimed me, regardless of whether or not I'm his...

All what GG said. :D Also, you know, you titled it. The three of you talking would likely be awesome. I empathize entirely on the challenges of introverts and extraverts. Also, teevee solution is easy. Buy another one. It's not like they're expensive. (sorry, I don't have much but...

Thanks, Meera, I was here to say similar. I find the use of 'cis-puss' highly offensive. And I haven't even really participated in this conversation.

Welcome to the forum, Silas. :) My offering to you is simply about how to regain yourself. When I break up with someone, I like to take 40 days of no-contact with them. A very wise teacher recommended this to me once, and every time I've done it, I've been able to maintain a friendship. With...

QFT. Brilliant, SC, simply brilliant.

Hey Magdlyn, Urg, sorry that happened to you. blech. I hope that article gets around and helps at least some clueless hunters get a clue. Hope you got through the blizzard safely. :D

nycindie, and any of our other noreasters, I hope you all survived the blizzard. Jane, thanks for the drop of sunshine! Me, I've had a redonkulus flu, and pretty much have been in my apartment since 1/30. I was at work two half days last week, then couldn't breathe on Tuesday night. Against...

None of the added 'explanation' changes anything. I think you've summed it up nicely there, all by yourself. I'm wondering why, exactly, it is that you like him? I don't like him, I don't know him, I don't want to know him. What is likeable about telling a woman who is your wife, 'You don't...

Hi nondy, I'd like to offer a different perspective. For the record, I am invisibly disabled, and child-free by choice. This struck me. I used to listen to "Dr. Laura" (when she was on simple AM radio). I used to drive across country a lot, and there were times when there was nothing else...

This is one of the best examples I've ever seen of the point: We teach people how to treat us. Thanks, Sparklepop. :)

Sorry, Kevin, and Razorbacktat, I think you may have missed this bit. She is no longer in a triad. She is an arm of a V, it sounds like. Other than that, I would heartily second Kevin's advice. It sounds like trying to negotiate together for a written solution seems very wise. Any chance you...

I'm wondering how that went for you? Was it a good conversation? I take she didn't flee, nor collapse, nor break up...yes? Why yes, I have. I so appreciate the question! I get really frustrated, because almost all the people in my life now, did not know me when I was really nutty. Most of...

I'm wondering if you perceive a difference in things one might not want to hear, and things one needs to hear even while not wanting to. I don't want to hear that my paycheck is being reduced, but I need to know so that I don't go buy a car before that happens. It would cause me a great deal...

MrFFR, I just had to note this. It reminded me of what my dad said to me once. We were having a deep conversation about relationships. My outing as poly has given us to some interesting conversations; also, in his dotage, he reflects, and wants to understand more about who we were and how...