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Welcome to the forum! I would suggest to let the body speak to you and tell you what's going on. There are probably different ways to do that....maybe with a therapist, a coach, a massage therapist....etc. Maybe a few Voice Dialogue sessions could help get to the bottom of it. Your body is...

Hello and welcome to the forum! I understand the hesitancy of bringing it up, because then the reality has to be dealt with. Louise may be against it from the beginning and so you will need to make a decision. It could also ruin the women's friendship. I'm fortunate, because I started talking...

New Single Poly Male!! My 2nd date with Pete went great!! Since we're poly, I invited a girl friend to accompany me on the date! Not something I ever did before when I was playing the "looking for a monogamous partner" game. But- he was thrilled that I invited her and we had a blast. She...

Well...thanks- I'm honored! :o

Four Way last weekend and date this Thursday!! Richard and I had met a couple a few weeks ago and there was a mutual attraction all the way around!! We invited them over this weekend and had a great time!! We really enjoyed each other's company. We were very comfortable. The guy knows one...

My primary partner and I share with each other. Depending on our mood at the time of sharing, we may share more or less. We have a way of reading each other and knowing what kind of space the other one is in. His secondary partner likes to give him long blow jobs (which I don't particularly...

There is some good news for you, Opalescent and NYCindie. What I've seen is that people who are actively working on their grief can get through it in less time, and people who are avoiding the emotions end up taking more time to move through the process. There are stages of grief, and these...

Okay, well, that's about the time NRE usually begins to wind down some, and the "shadow" aspects begin to reveal themselves. For many years, I did grief work with people who were dealing with relationships that had ended. Basically, the grieving time is about 25% of the length of the...

I know this is a Poly site and I consider myself to be poly, but sometimes a good sexual encounter is just what the doctor ordered. Richard and I occassionally go to the local Swinger club. The last time we went, we met a couple there. There was a good bit of mutual attraction all the way...

Welcome to the forum! There are lots of honest people here who are willing to share. Polyamory is based on honesty. I always disclose I am polyamorous from the very beginning. To me, it doesn't seem to be very thoughtful to wait until someone is getting attached or falling in love before...

May I ask what you are talking about? Thanks. :)

Thanks so much for sharing. I want to share with you how I deal with guilt. The first question I ask myself is: "Is this realistic or unrealistic guilt?" Thoughts and limiting beliefs have a lot to do with feelings. Realistic guilt is necessary and can be worked through in a conscious...

Hello, Bookbug. Interesting story. I think I can speak to this on a couple of levels. I understand the compatibility issue, since I work with the MBTI professionally and I could see how your connection with Bryce might have scared Eden, because on some level she realizes she and he will never...

Thanks for sharing about your process. I think it's very powerful to write our thoughts and feelings down and then go back and read them after time has passed. (I use this forum as a sort of journal for myself.) I kept a written journal for many years and some of my most profound moments were...

Welcome, and thanks for sharing. I agree with everyone else-- the anger and rage issues are going to have to be dealt with. Also, relationships often work best when things are paced a bit. With some discipline and restraint, it can be helpful to let more time pass between meetings, so the...

I like your vision! My primary partner has a seperate apartment in his house with a bathroom and kitchen and there is a private entrance in the back. I could totally imagine living there with him and having a female partner living in the apartment! In fact, I could see us being willing to...

Hahahahaha, I'm cracking up!! One of my partners has a curved one! Yes, and how freaked out they will be when they find out it's too big! That never happens! I'm so glad I came back! This is so entertaining! :p

Hahahaha Okay, everybody. Basically, all she has to do is ask the prospective partner to send her a photo of his dick, and if he won't, he doesn't get a date, period. She could probably even say, "Hold a Coke can up to it in the photo, so I can determine the scale." A lot of guys will do it...

Welcome. There are lots of awesome supportive people here. Read a lot and keep sharing.

I almost said "like Redpepper" on my post! ;)