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I had a "best friend" like that for many years. I considered her 'like a sister" and I was the friend that was "always there for her". All of her other friends and family admired me for being so loyal. However- I finally realized that she was wreaking havoc in my life. I had to admit that I...

I think the most important point to consider is that there comes a point in life where an individual and/or couple should begin to create their own reality- independent of culture and society. An objective view of the "reality" of monogamy easily shows that it it is simply not that successful...

I have finally met the couple of my dreams! I will call them Carrie and Gary. It has been 2 ½ years since I set an intention and began to focus my attention on finding a couple. Much is said in the polyamory community about the unicorn- that elusive bisexual single female wanting to be in a...

Idealist Polyblog- part 46-- catching up It's been a while since I've posted on my blog and I'm planning on getting back into it. I still enjoy reading everyone else's posts!! So, my current configuration is that I still live alone and my primary male partner is Richard. He also lives...

The Bachelor and the Bachelorette Yes- I watch the Bachelor and the Bachelorette. In fact-seeing a person dating that many people and getting really close and intimate to that many people is one of the things that helped me to allow myself to pursue poly relationships. I have watched people...

The problem with your original question is the part where you said "Almost All Poly Couples".....there is no "almost all poly people" for anything!

I'm glad I found this thread. I can't think of any of them right now (of course) but there have been at least 20 times in the last 3 years (since I have embraced poly) where I have realized a poly perspective would have resulted in a much better ending for movies and books etc. So....the next...

I'd like to hear the long version of this sometimes if you are so inclined. :-)

That makes perfect sense to me! With the invention of Viagra, things have shifted a bit, but basically, this sounds very logical to me. This also makes perfect sense to me! I had an experience one evening while with a group of friends (about 5 couples) where a woman and I were sitting back...

I'm going back to the original topic first. I'm a voyeur and and exhibitionist. I enjoy watching other people have sex when they are turned on by having me and/or others watch them. And I enjoy having people watch me have sex when they are getting stimulated by watching me/us. For me, it's an...

I know, I've heard that a lot. But the bottom line is that men are men and they want variety. The culture and society has brainwashed everyone to believe that it's not okay, especially the Indian culture, which I'm very familiar with. I've been to India, as a matter of fact. When a man says he...

I had the opportunity to get to know a couple and have a nice sexual experience with them a few weeks ago. (I attend a "swingers club" in my area because there isn't a poly community here.) The husband was an Indian guy, sounds a lot like your husband. It was his first time to attend such an...

welcome You are definitely in the right place! There are a lot of people here who are willing to share their thoughts and experiences with you. These are my two cents: Your husband wouldn't be so jealous of you if he was having his own fulfilling experiences. I would suggest that you spend...

Give him time to process it I was surprised that my primary male partner only took about three months to process and move forward into a polyamorous mindset. I would think, however, it could take a lot longer. The key is for him to feel that he has the space to process it and that he is not...

I prefer to introduce my partners to each other in a more intimate setting first and see if they actually like one another. When I introduced Richard and Charles to one another- they hit it off immediately and really liked each other! After that, it was easy to invite them both to events...

swinging and poly From what I have noticed....swingers are swingers for a variety of reasons. One is because they don't want the emotional drama that comes along with emotional relationships. Including NRE and jealousy. Sometimes they are just trying to protect the primary relationship...

hello Hello and welcome to the site! you will find a lot of good feedback here. I'm sure some of the of the mono people here will not like what I have to say, but oh well, here it is. I was also a mono for 50 years.....or you could say 30 years because I wasn't that sexual for the first 20...

For me, when I start feeling disenchanted with a relationship, I begin to look at my own life. It is a flag for me when I begin to look towards something outside of myself (even if it's my primary relationship) to help me feel fulfillment. Intimate relationships are extremely rewarding and I...

Idealist Poly Blog Part 45- A nice surprize!! I had the pleasure of having a sexual encounter with two "swingers" (a male and a female) and at the end of the evening, we found ourselves making plans to spend a few days together- just the three of us- later in the year. I’ve known Diane for...

There you go- looks like I'm in the minority again! I definitely find dark letters on light background easier to read....in fact, the other way is actually very irritating for me and I find myself straining and squinting. But I don't mind being in the minority.....and the poly minority is the...