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That is where the language gets in the way. I don't know about others, but we have tried to realize there is a difference between jealousy and envy. I can be envious of someone else's good fortune without wanting to take it from them. Jealousy typically seems, to us at least, to be that not only...

Well think of it this way. When monogamous people start dating they look for someone that interests them that is interested in them and take it from there. Why is it so different being poly? Would YOU date a person who told you up front, "Hey I'm only looking to date you, no matter how...

I wish I had an answer to that question, "When is enough enough?" To be honest, it's one that DH and I have voiced many times. While we have been able to work through things and get to a better place, we often look back and think that there were times when we shouldn't have, when for our own...

Okay, I gave this advice to someone else recently. Depression, anxiety, disassociative disorder, all of those are problems, admittedly. They can have an external source. For example, I was told that my brain chemistry was changed as a child because I was in an unsafe environment emotionally...

I totally got what you meant, the problem is with what it comes across as. I'm sure you meant it innocently enough but it can come across as somewhat insulting to others. For example: I'm married and have a boyfriend. I could say that my boyfriend is an additional relationship. Well all...

Outside of space! Of Time! It's time I came clean. I'm dating a Time Lord. It's complicated but damn does he make a good mug of tea! :)

The problem is not that you know what you want. It's like anything else you see. If you are going to put more and more filters on your search you are narrowing your search down, which is awesome! It also means there are less and less options popping up. You stated right there what the...

I don't know about that, but having a different log in for mods would be good. Only of course, if you can work it to still see mod duties on your usual account. I know on the forums I use I set it up that way. Staff makes a separate account for staff but I can change the permissions for any...

Well, I'm married, have been 18 years now. And I have had a boyfriend for two years this August. My relationship with my hubby I call primary. We pretty much agree that it's more to do with how entwined our lives are than who I love more. I'm horrible at the idea of loving someone only so much...

Also, ^^ this. It's daunting to think that if I am going to date someone it's not that I am dating SOMEONE. It's that I have to date two people as a unit. It automatically puts me in an awkward position. What if I like one more than the other? Am drawn to one more than the other? What if...

You have NO IDEA how many mono to poly people DH and I see on other lists and sites and yes even here, who are told, "Slow your roll! You did some damage in your base/primary/established/marriage relationship! Take some time to work on that first!" So believe me, this blog is being read, is...

Personally, I've found what works best on profiles on OKC is to explain. I don't just say I'm poly, I explain what that means to me, which is romantic relationships, honesty, openness, whether I am looking for long term or not. I also do explain that I am not looking to date couples together...

I am only speaking to this. Since you are getting a lot of advice on the rest of stuff. I too tend to ramble and honestly when someone here posted that I said something well DH made it a point to show me since I rarely think I'm making much sense! I have panic problems, and anxiety, major...

Sorry, I do feel badly that you are in this situation but right now I feel the worst for K. No one knows what he's going through or what he's really like. All you have is the word of a woman who lied, cheated, and manipulated the situation to get what she wanted and get you to like her BEFORE...

Just so things stay on topic as much as possible: I do understand that modding a board is hard work. I run two right now and even with the help of a couple of staff members, it's difficult. Can't be everywhere at once, and I get it. I also have a pet peeve of staff making things personal...

This is one of those things I think is being OVER thought. I am out. I pretty much just am. However, I understand the whole, 'time and place' kind of thing. DH and I met in catholic school, we saw a wonderful teacher black balled and dismissed because she had the AUDACITY to have an...

Okay trying to get to the actual question, not the one(s) asked but basically the one you want an answer to. It sounds like what is being asked is, this couple would like to find a man to date them both. Male unicorn basically, but want it put out there that there would not so much be a...

Another possibility is NRE. I've seen a few relationships break up because of NRE. The new partner is shiny, fun, interesting, because it's new! You are still getting to know each other and there's that excitement there. That feeling that, wow! I've met someone that GETS me! You don't see...

I have to admit I'm curious. Your update says that your husband was fluctuating daily on how he felt about you and Liam. Obviously there was not, "let's take a break" decided on, and that's cool. Up to you guys how to proceed. However, I'm curious, was anything ever discussed? You know, how...

And this is where it comes in. No matter how open minded anyone tries to be, there is inherent prejudice. On poly groups there is a lot towards married couples. What I find exhausting, personally, is it comes from those NOT in a similar situation. To me, it's like me making assumptions about...