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Many many people like the idea of living together. Eventually. The thing is, that may not work for everyone. I'm a puppy pile kind of person. I'm good sleeping in a bed or hanging out in a group and cuddling, the more the merrier! Of course, my love language is physical touch, so be a...

I think it's really important to realize as people that what we think are boundaries and what are actually boundaries are important. My brain doesn't always work well so I'll clarify. Okay, so both hubby and boyfriend are stating they are uncomfortable with share time, living together or...

For the record, don't care that an 18 year old is dating a 16 year old. The concern is someone using one of their alters as an excuse to cuddle and hang out with a 16 year old when they are 23. Issues with someone who has ALREADY had issues with the law because that 18 year old was 15 when she...

I am personally of the opinion that once I learned to not NEED to be with someone, my relationships got healthier. I love my husband, we have built a life together, twenty years, three kids, been through more than you can imagine. For a long time I felt that way, that I NEEDED him. It made me...

I can tell you with all sincerity I do not hate you. I dont' believe anyone here does. What you are finding is absolute shock, and you will find it in many other threads as well. Whenever someone comes in with a situation that is questionable. That you waited for him to be legal, TO ME...

Okay several things wrong here. Let me try and break it down to you from another perspective. 1) I have a 16 year old daughter. WHO SHOULD NOT BE HAVING SEX! If she is doing so with an 18 year old. Someone is calling the cops. PERIOD. She is underage. PERIOD. I started dating my hubby...

I guess a lot of it depends on what you mean by going somewhere. Do you look at all your relationships, your friends, your family, and HAVE to know where it will end up? Both Hubby and BF identify as mono. BF for a long time didn't really mention our relationship too in depth because of deep...

I have to admit, reading this really broke my heart. I actually linked my bf to it right away and we had a long discussion about it. The LAST thing I would want is for him to feel that I am somehow holding him back or in a relationship that will go nowhere. Also the stigma that a poly...

Actually, if a child is born in wedlock it is ASSUMED to be the spouse's. So name will automatically be on the birth certificate UNLESS, the husband has questions. After the birth, IF someone says they believe themselves to be the father and sues for paternity test, THEN it can be changed.

I can't count the red flags, but he really sounds more like a cowboy. Talking at only two months about how he is better for you than your husband?? I wouldn't want that talk. I expect everyone loving me to respect the others in my life, at the very least. No one is replacing anyone, and if he...

I have dealt with Child Protective Services, and it's not just about the child being safe. When I dealt with them, in a situation much like yours, but monogamous, I was literally bullied. They kept hounding me about things. When they were at my house, my daughter brought me a toy with a frayed...

I have some mental conditions that I will be dealing with my whole life. I disclose them when it gets to the point of more than just chatting. If it's just friend chat it ends up being disclosed just not as quickly as chat that moves from just friends to possibly more, if that makes sense...

I am bisexual, but I wouldn't consider sharing a gf with either of my men. Neither of my men are interested in anything together or in a threesome. Honestly, it is one of those things where I think people come to it from different mindsets. I seriously can't wrap my head around 'sharing' a lover...

If you take out the romantic part of the relationship, then you should have your answer. I'm more comfortable being able to share and just openly talk to the people I care about. If a friend, or a coworker said something like that, or someone told me about it, I wouldn't even question telling...

Okay I'm going to answer the OP with all the information out so far. Here's how we started with poly. I was suffering major depression. I've been a depressive for over 20 years, most of my life, and this was a pretty bad spot. Worse, a therapist sent from work to check on me agreed that...

I also suffer from depression, it's always worse this time of year and every so many years it's so bad that I end up hospitalized. What I do as far as relationships is the same thing I try and do year round. I give them warnings. I tell them both how I'm doing, I explain that I'm overly...

I'm going to take a different approach. You see, right now I am with two men, neither of which are with others. Yes, it works for me, however, it's not what I demand. I accept that should/when either of them dates or meets someone there will be adjustments. That there will be times I am not...

On one hand I understand your worry. I'm married, hubby and I have kids, we've both discussed it and neither of us want more kids so have taken care of that issue on our ends. That means, my boyfriend one day will want kids, probably a wife. I can't be that for him, so does that mean that at...

I'll be honest, not reading every reply. I'm going to respond to the premise, because I hear it over and over. I have heard people claim that the established relationship has too much power over the new one. I have seen WAY TOO MANY established relationships destroyed over the NRE of new ones...

Well, I can answer your question! See, were were married with three kids before we opened up. I'm the poly one. It took us much time and work to get here. Guess what we both learned? That we both have to work on ourselves. You keep saying how you always put his happiness first. Why? I mean, I...