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Honestly, I don't get making it a rule that you have to meet the other person! Also, I respect my spouse, so I tell him when I'm talking to someone, I let him know I'm considering a meet, or a talk on the phone. However, that's showing respect. It is NOT disrespectful to decide that I date...

Just wanted to say, while no I don't think partners need to basically 'dump' or push aside other relationships to work on the one in trouble, I dont' see anything wrong with taking more time with the relationship that needs a little help. Not as a way to shore things up but to actually work on...

From the sounds of it, then, you are looking specifically for a triad or quad so you find it important that all parties are interested in each other. That's fine if that's what you are interested in. However, for those of us that date independently, it's like a bait and switch to be telling...

Yahoo groups has a listing for Michigan poly. Most of the meetings are down south in the Detroit area but there are members on the email listing from all over, including the UP. The email list has several hundred members, though not all are active in posting.

Well we tried asking for clarification Flowerchild, and all we got was defensive attitudes and back tracking. Read around, a lot of times people ask for clarification because with language we can be using the same words and meaning different things.

Yeah sorry, first of all, for clarification, I was not using myself as an example but as a way to make your scenario make sense. Hubby, not dating, me, not straight. Secondly, hubby has been in a threesome, with a woman and another man. Both men straight. That's still a threesome, neither...

Yes, they could. So could a woman who is younger, older, taller, shorter, bigger breasts, smaller, more athletic, more house bound. And it could be that a woman is threatened by a man dating their partner. Or vice versa. Again, this isn't just people pointing out that they themselves don't fit...

Well if you actually read what people are posting, NO ONE NEEDS TO BE BISEXUAL IN A THREESOME! That's the point people are making. That the assumption that my straight husband dating a bisexual female is somehow a threat or a worry to me, as a straight woman, is silly. Period. Your original...

You were the one that stated that for some reason it would be easier to experience a threesome if one of your partners were bi. The replies are basically people trying to explain to you that it makes no difference. That dating a straight, bisexual, pansexual, or gay person makes no difference...

These names we use, these titles really, are important. So however someone wants to use them, I think, should be respected. Yes, hubby and I say Wife or Hubby instead of 'my' now. We dropped the possessive while we were in the beginnings of poly and learning to get our own mind around the...

I can understand if you are reading a lot of introductions it looks that way. On my local email list there are something like 800 members. Yet, there are only five that really post with any regularity and then each week we get between 1-3 introductions of couples that want to be poly, as long...

It's all just language, and honestly she may not know she's bisexual. I didn't, not for a long time. I convinced myself for YEARS that being attracted to women was just because society made it such a big deal. Of COURSE I think that girl looks good, they take the picture to make her look...

This now makes two threads in which you and I agree on something. A sign of the apocalypse maybe? :p Side note: DH and I went to read your link in your sig, can't say there's much I disagree with, just doesn't all fit me or any of my 'ships' at the mo!

THIS^^ Is what I was referring to. The idea somehow that because you have more than one relationship there will ALWAYS be someone around when you need them. That you have some sort of beck and call system that by having more than one relationship you are so DEFINITELY going to get your needs...

You seem to have the idea that ONE person is seeing TWO people and those two are not seeing anyone else is the majority of poly, or the 'norm' and it really isn't. I don't know if this is just because of, reading your posts, what you take from poly and from your partner. If you read more...

Also if you are wondering about how people are out or come out you can do a search! I know there's been threads recently where people discussed being out and how far out and with who and all of that. Try search tags like 'open' 'out of the closet' things like that!

It is trickier with kids I admit, and so again depending on what is going on, I remain 'respectful' like in church. No need to cause a scene. I do get proactive, such as now I have a meeting at the high school with a teacher and have already spoken to the principal. They have no LGBT org...

I don't announce, but I don't hide. I just leave it. If someone questions, I explain. In situations where it's best to not be 'outted' I am respectful but it's the same thing I suppose as going to church. I wouldn't be making out with someone in church! But I might hold their hand or...

Well greetings and welcome to the forums! I definitely recommend reading around to see what you can learn. A lot of times new people jump right in with questions and get frustrated to be pointed to the search function. Something important to know is you are not alone! I doubt sincerely there...

Part of what we had to get over when we started to open our marriage was that you do not OWN anyone, you do not BELONG to anyone. It's been romanticized for a long time to 'belong' to someone or to belong somewhere. So we did start changing how we refer to each other. Hubby refers to me as...