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I am sorry that there seems to be this prevailing opinion that the book was about opening up a marriage to unicorns. To be honest, I'm still absolutely baffled, here and on local groups I'm a part of, where some married couples' intros are just like really really short-handed personal ads...

Where you failed was in being coherent. Also, throw in some pity party lines of "I know this is going to upset people, I should know better and I'm sorry." -Resident Ghost Writer

I'm the poly hinge in a V with two men that are mono. This is new for all of us. DH and I have been married nearly 20 years and have been on this poly road for about 6 years. DC and I have been together almost 2 years. We've had discussions about either of them dating. DH is open to it, but...

Whoa! Nope, sorry, that doesn't fly in our house. When we had little ones, I drove him to work and dropped him off or he biked. In case of emergency it was important for me to have the vehicle for the kids! I don't know if that's the same for everyone or if that's an issue as well, but it...

Hey this is the hard part of poly. It gives NO ROOM to hide those things. Keep burying your head in the sand or denying and you won't get far. Hubby has had to do more than his fair share of inner work as the mono partner and the cheated on partner, I don't get off scot free! They suck, they...

Just my two cents, calm down. No one is telling you just up and divorce your husband. Guess what? Some of us are married and DO take those vows seriously. Also, we take our other relationships seriously, we take ALL our commitments seriously! Who'd a thunk?? If I were you, (and again...

I'm sorry, but what are you looking for? A magic pill or book that suddenly makes him "okay" with everything? Read around. There's no such thing. This question has been asked over and over by many many people, in long-term mono relationships, and just starting out. Here are the two main points...

Everyone has different definitions, of course, so that makes it more complicated. I am married and the stay-at-home parent for our three teenagers. I'm in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend. For me, stepping away from the hierarchy thing just means not PRESCRIBING how a...

No no no silly! Slaves are taken in trucks! The pipeline is where they have the super jet speed trains for rich people to be smuggled down to Mexico in style and pick fruit!

Oh I second, third, and fourth this! I think it's the totally WRONG approach. It got to the point, for us, that hubby started wondering, why be married? If the answer to not getting enough time with your spouse is take care of yourself, if the answer to not having your spouse do things with...

Ugh, my youngest is such a girly irl and loved Boohbas. I finally couldn't take it and introduced her to the old cartoon Jem and Holograms, she gobbled it up! Then we moved onto a bunch of classics, found Reading Rainbow, the Mister Rogers mix song, and He Man and She ra. Now they are all...

Hubby and I were married 15 years when we opened our marriage and I'll tell you right now, we didn't do it the right way. However, hubby is mono and has been supportive and we have done a lot of work to get where we are now, which is a good place! I would most definitely slow down a...

I'm glad you are having more fun with your daughter. It's also great that you are finding things she likes that you like, or at least can stand. Don't worry about the kids shows, there are some I still can't stand and others I dont' get why the kids never liked! Something that works for me...

A couple of things. On the parenting thing, there are all different kinds of parents, I understand. Personally, as much as I loved working I loved most when I could take kids with me to work, I took them everywhere with me and didn't work until at least two of the three were in school. I am...

I'm not going to post. To be honest, you are going to be turning people off pretty soon. We are here to share things, sure, but so far, you haven't shared anything. All the posts from you are asking other people what the pros and cons of poly and mono are. No information about who you are, or...

Not totally be a buzz kill, but all he said was "Sam stuff. Different continent." Isn't that pretty much accurate though? At this point he doesn't want to know or see anything about you and Si. Well, when he does, what he sees is that you choose her. You choose her over him. Over the...

Here's a quick reply from a cheater. My hubby and I started out this way. I had an affair. I wanted DESPERATELY to make it work and keep the person I had an affair with. We went to a lot of lists for poly/mono, which I have since left because of the attitudes of the 'poly' side. Forgiveness...

There are a lot of white picket fences of cohabitating. I guess my thing is that I'm not sure that would work for me. I mean, would I love for both of them to be close? Absolutely! Except, I know neither of them are comfortable living together. I may be the type to love a big naked puppy...

Communication is not just what you say, but how you are heard. Seeing as I have had this kind of conversation from guys more than once, I'm going to tell you how this sounds to me in hopes that you might see why you are having a hard time finding anyone interested. **Guy sits next to me at...

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