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I'm glad you are taking it as such, a learning experience. I think we have all had our fair share of them, and honestly, my only regrets are that my learning came at the expense of bad feelings, for me and for others. Hearts get broken and bruised and it's unfortunate. It does sound like they...

You said hubby was upset that you didn't mention him when discussing your bf on here. Could he maybe mean your sig line? You have yourself and your boyfriend listed but not your hubby. To be honest, I think I'd understand if either hubby or bf got upset about me putting up a sig with my...

I know it felt like salt in the wound, but it was honest. Now, there are people here that piss me off regularly and I just ignore them, to the point that I honestly don't even write when I agree with them (as rare as that is). There are others on here that make me shake my head and wonder what...

I'm going to keep it simple. I came from a place similar, I had an emotional affair. Hubby and I both joined some lists of mono/poly to help and many many stories we read there are about opening a marriage with affairs. There is no going from a marriage that had cheating to poly. There's...

I know there are lists, but not everyone thinks of getting themselves on that list! Also unless you live in those areas, it doesn't help much. So rather than relying on a list to tell you I do my own research. Try calling up a couple of places and explain that you are looking for a...

Okay it sounds like you want strangers on the internet to tell you that you are a good babysitter, caregiver and this person, the parent of the child, is overreacting and should respect the way you discipline the child. Here's my question. What difference does that make if we do? Are you going...

Okay, SEcondary, calm down. No one is saying that you need to physically separate a man from his dick. For some people, the size of a dick isn't an issue. Obviously, and yep, I'm saying obviously, it is for you guys. Why? Because of the way you present it. It's not 'My wife fell for this other...

There's a difference in how you approach people is all it boils down to. People that come to my door with their inspirational messages? Well let's just say the family now tries to beat me to the door so I don't have to tell them what I really think. You want to live your life according to...

I think you might be confusing the fading of love to the natural ebb and flow of a long-term relationship. Once you get past the NRE aspect of a relationship, there comes ebb and flow. There are lots of factors there, life being the biggest one. My primary is my husband. He knows it's not...

Sadly there isn't always an underlying issue to deal with. I would recommend the book, The Body Remembers, but it's incredibly dry and meant for those in the research side not so much the people actually dealing with depression. To sum up, the idea is quite simply that we adjust to what works...

The problem is, if you have been long term diagnosed, you do, at some point (usually) figure out how to function. The problem being on a bad day, you can't think to do any of those things! On god days, I multi task. I can read several books at once, I listen to music while cleaning, and...

Just an FYI, telling someone with diagnosed chronic or severe depression that they need to get out more or exercise to feel better is about the same as saying, "Buck up!" It typically has a negative affect rather than a positive one. Yeah, exercise and getting out more helps, but depression...

It honestly does not matter at this point. You said you were indeed AZTriad. I have gone over and reread threads, and it's the same thing over and over. People mention that it doesn't seem she's as into you as him, and maybe it can be a V, and over and over you insist it be a triad. Over and...

No, not rhetorical. The OP specifically asked us to read her other posts to fully understand, but there are no other posts under this ID. So not rhetorical, just catching the OP in some sort of game of identity swap. Also, not antagonizing, fed up. If all your language is about how things...

OMG, how DARE this woman have a preference in partners? How DARE she decide how to spend her time and who with? Does she not understand that she alone must put in the work to make sure everything is always equal? That the couple must come first in all things, and if she is upsetting one of them...

I would start looking at posts tagged unicorn, triad, unicorn hunters, that kind of thing. Sadly, this is not at all uncommon, and part of that is the unrealistic expectations put on the third party. Already in this one post you have shown that this is a situation you view as having failed...

Actually, my advice is to sit them both down, explain that you think they are bringing other issues into D&D and it's ruining it for everyone! Let them know they need to leave personal issues at the door or end up destroying the entire group. I speak from D&D poly experience. Before DH and I...

Here is an article i have shared with both my partners. http://www.lifescript.com/health/centers/depression/articles/what_not_to_say_to_a_depressed_mate.aspx?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=depression Another thing to offer is if your partner would like someone to go with them...

Relationships ebb and flow. You are getting frustrated that there's ebb and no flow. You keep putting it all on her and her actions. Seriously, find me a place where you don't put it on her actions. The only thing you can change is how you behave and how you react. If all you do is say, "Hey, I...

Honestly? You've posted on this situation a few times and every time I see the same thing-- MD is not as into you as she is into FJ. This is kind of why people are always warning against unicorn hunting or triads being the be all-end all. She's not as into you as she is him. Every time you post...