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How can one tell when they are married, if they are poly or if there are problems in their marriage that they are trying to escape from? Last year my husband and I started practicing polyamory. It went wonderfully, I felt so fulfilled and free. He was fine with it as well, although didn't find...

I was wondering... I know it varies from state to state, but generally, if someone was married, had a child by another man, could they then hyphenate their last name to reflect that of both men? I mean, can one just change their name on a whim, or does there need to be a marriage to do that?

My boyfriend is going to one of his friend's wedding today. They invited me ("Hey are we finally going to meet your girl?") but he didn't, because he assumed that it would be too public, as I am married with kids and the possible FB photos that could follow. I understand, but I wish it had been...

In your experience, how long do you wait in a new relationship before adding another partner? Is there a basic time, or does it depend on the relationship? I am just curious as to what everyone else thinks about this, as it seems to have been up for interpretation in my own relationships. One...

I have been poly for a year now, on my second extramarital relationship. We are running into the same issues that ended it for my last relationship. (Only this time I am on the other side of it, which is helpful for learning.) My question is this: How do you deal with NRE in your other partner...

Let me just start by saying how much I have appreciated this site throughout my poly journey! You guys have always been there for me, and whenever I have an issue I can look it up and feel better. I only ever write when I feel the need to have support for my issue. Right now I am feel confused...

My poly boyfriend of 6 mos broke it off with me last Sunday. I have been married to my husband for 6 years and haven't been broken up with since I was in high school. It was so strange to feel that hurt again. I felt naiive for thinking that his talk of forever was true. What can I say, I'm an...

Having been poly for the better part of a year, I am realizing some long term goals of mine. I want to work toward having a poly family, a multi-adult household. I mean, what is the future goal for most relationships that are deeply loving? I would think cohabitation would be a common thread...

I have been in a polyamorous relationship since October, with my new beau and my husband of 7 years. It is going wonderfully, the two get along really well. My only complaint is that my beau lives so far away we only get to see each other 2x a week. I am just the kind of girl who sucks at long...

I have been moving slowly into polyamorism, for my husbands sake. It has been going very well, no issues there! He actually has a profile on OKC now, which pleases me very much. I just had a question about secondaries.. I met a guy that I really like, just as friends for now, but I could see...

It seems that every time I have a poly talk with my husband, I have to break something within us both and rebuild it each time. Like the conversations are potentially damaging, but then we heal up stronger than we were before it. My issue is that he seems to make progress after each one of...

My husband was having a tough night with the poly talk, last night. So to further describe where I was coming from I made up an analogy, which explains my feelings perfectly. Perhaps it can help someone too? Picture that you have a huge dish of chocolate ice cream. It is the tastiest chocolate...

Just an update. My husband has been trying to avoid the poly talk (subconsciously, I think). I keep cornering him and gently bringing it up. I talked with him last night (for a while), but it helped that I voiced my concerns that I thought he was avoiding it. Also that it wasn't going away, that...

Thank you all for being so supportive! I have been scouring this site for all of the old forums, which is awesome. I am wondering if there are any really good sites/links you could suggest, something new. I have also scoured "Xeromag" as well and I read "Savage Love" religiously. I am getting...

If there is one thing my marriage is, it is honest and open. My husband is a wonderful man whom I am deeply in love with. Over the past few months I have been having Poly conversations with him. While he is very mono, and can accept the idea of poly, he can't accept that I might be poly (I have...