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Thank you for your thoughtful responses! You all have given me so much to consider :) Our sexual disconnect occurred before poly, although sleeping with other men did nothing for my libido with my husband. We used to have a slamming sex life, before kiddos (who are 3 and 5). Since my second was...

Let me just start by saying how much I have appreciated this site throughout my poly journey! You guys have always been there for me, and whenever I have an issue I can look it up and feel better. I only ever write when I feel the need to have support for my issue. Right now I am feel confused...

Thank you for your support, Tonberry. All break-ups are difficult, no matter which part you played. Splitting up a partnership is sad because it finalizes things you might have been thinking or completely surprises you by doing so. I am sorry for you loss of partner. My ex-beau emailed me...

My poly boyfriend of 6 mos broke it off with me last Sunday. I have been married to my husband for 6 years and haven't been broken up with since I was in high school. It was so strange to feel that hurt again. I felt naiive for thinking that his talk of forever was true. What can I say, I'm an...

Having been poly for the better part of a year, I am realizing some long term goals of mine. I want to work toward having a poly family, a multi-adult household. I mean, what is the future goal for most relationships that are deeply loving? I would think cohabitation would be a common thread...

Things are happening slowly and surely. I have spoken to both of my men about the possibility of this changing. So far there are some good signs that he is very interested in me. He will be meeting both of my men this week (on separate days). He is excited to meet my family. I spoke with my...

Very good points! We are pretty happy with our relationship the way that it is (my husband and I), as we have talked about its current rhythms of it at great length. Organization is a big part of making multiple relationships work! very good advice. Currently we have days scheduled for each...

NYCindie- Thank you for your very accurate response. There might be something within me I am trying to fill in, but I think it is a little different. I am alone all day, the type of work I do I just drive around all day. I miss social contact outside of my business dealings (as I have no...

I have been in a polyamorous relationship since October, with my new beau and my husband of 7 years. It is going wonderfully, the two get along really well. My only complaint is that my beau lives so far away we only get to see each other 2x a week. I am just the kind of girl who sucks at long...

It is odd. In my situation I became interested in poly because I am bisexual, and wanted a girlfriend. My husband wasn't too cool with the idea yet, so I waited. Eventually I found a guy I was interested in and my husband relented (and now embraces the idea). Recently I started crushing on...

I am not in your marriage, so it is impossible for me to really understand what it is like. But it sounds like he is getting back at you, perhaps subconsciously? He sounds like he really cares for you, wanting your happiness so much over the years. Even so, it must feel so great for him to have...

Ahh, great suggestions! I do like to call my new guy "my love" so perhaps it can stick outside of endearments. I can only imagine how difficult it would be to be away from both of my men for the holidays! It is hard enough being away from one >.< Hang in there and enjoy the family!

Thanks Phy! Yes I am seeing this as being a very successful relationship, lasting many years to come. It sounds crazy to admit it, but truly, it is what we both talk about, how we both feel about it. It feels so major, so earth-shaking, this love. I am eternally grateful for the chance to...

Positive Poly Story I haven't been on this site for months! How nice it is to be back and feeling the support of other Poly Peeps! I just wanted to throw a happy update out there, to those who like to hear positive things about Poly. When I first visited this site it was with many questions...

It can be difficult when distance is the issue. I currently live 1.5 hrs from my partner, it is really difficult sometimes. We really make the best of the time we spend together and we get creative on the in-between days. Like a Skype date. Good luck and have fun!

Yep, that is how my husband is too, so YAY for logical acceptance but emotional confusion! I think it takes a while to reprogram that social conditioning. Just make sure you are getting what you want. Oh and I am assuming you read the mandatory Franklin Veaux? If not, here is a link to...

Oh, you are definitely welcome!! I am such a poly newbie, the only advice I can give is what I have good experience with. I have been on OKC since May, so I have had time to understand it a little. Still figuring things out, lol. It has been great that my husband has gone on and I could learn a...

Update My husband met my new guy last night for dinner. My guy was in town for a conference so it worked out very well, timing wise. It was, of course, a little awkward at first, but the two guys easily found things to talk about. They have much in common, personality-wise, but completely...

About OKCupid: I feel your OKC pain, my husband has had a difficult time, but I have encouraged him to message many women, understanding that only some will be interested enough to reply. Being upfront about being poly on there is the best thing to do! Kudos! You would hate to lead someone on...

You guys should seriously get paid for the advice you give! Thanks for being such great Samaritans :D After I wrote that last piece he came on and read the thread, which he loved. We now have a lunch date for him to meet the new guy, which is awesome. He even seems a little excited for it. He...