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I am comfortable around my friends, but can still be very quiet. I'm becoming much more open with friends and some family in general, speaking up more often. As quiet and shy as I can be sometimes, it is very subjective because I'm a retail manager and I have to be very assertive and well...

SC - I wouldn't presume to tell anyone they aren't 'allowed' to share their personal lives and my annoyance was brief, just an inital reaction to possibly being outed against my will. None of us had any idea that there was a family connection at her workplace but now that we know and she...

I worry (as I often do :P) that I'm subconsciously withdrawing from family that I'm not comfortable sharing my 'polyness' with. I find myself not keeping in touch as often as I used to, which is why I think about just telliing my family and then dealing with any consequences. I was a little...

I've had more discussions with both my husband and my bf and it has been very interesting and I think I'm beginning to accept the way my bf expresses his feelings. I like LemonDrop's way of approaching it, asking if her husband loves her and all he has to say is 'yes' and the validation is...

As often is the case, expressing my thoughts here has spurred me into opening up a converstation in person. After talking to my bf, the situation is much different than I expected. He has a very different view on the words 'I love you' based on his own experience with them. They mean little to...

I think this is more of a general relationship question, but it has been weighing heavily on my mind with no real solution in sight. My husband of nearly 14 years loves me, he says and shows it all the time. My bf of 6 months is a bit of a trickier issue. For many reasons that I do accept and...

Welcome icanlovetwo! My husband and I have found that dating sites like okcupid or adultfriendfinder are pretty polyfriendly. I found my bf on aff and my hubby is currently into a woman on okcupid. Best of luck in exploring poly!

Welcome Superjast! Nice to see a fellow Albertan on here, I'm in Edmonton and I gotta say I'm looking forward to Spring :)

Wow, these responses are exactly what I've been needing to hear! I'm a bit 'in awe' of those who live openly poly, being somewhat introverted myself, just seems like such a healthier way to live life :) I want to be more confident in general and I don't want to be ashamed of being poly. I'm...

Jlynn, please believe that there are so many people that can relate to how you're feeling. I'm incredibly self conscious and can hardly believe that my husband and now my bf enjoy my body. I'm overweight, hairy, and have acne everywhere. Not exactly the most desirable woman, and yet I have not...

LR - I agree, I think part of me would gladly deal with people's questions, I just feel awkward to show the initiative in that conversation. I don't feel a need to say to anyone 'My husband and I are poly' and then see where that conversation goes. Mostly because I don't fully know who needs...

This issue has been weighing more heavily on my mind lately and I'm totally undecided on the issue. My triad with my hubby of 13 years and bf of 6 months is doing really well. We are 'out' to a handful of friends only and the issue hasn't really come up with any other people, including family...

I couldn't agree more with you! Being rather new to this, insecurity and jealousy are still areas we are working on. I view my husband as my primary. He is the one that I have made a commitment to. I have felt that, in time, I will feel the same level of commitment to my boyfriend. We have...

My hubby mentioned that since this Valentine's will be the first with my BF that he's happy to let us spend it together :) *sigh* I can't believe how lucky I am to have such wonderful men in my life <3

Welcome! Always nice to see Canadians on here! Alberta has been particularly frigid this winter and we've got 3 more months to go... *sigh*

Awwww! I'm so happy for all three of you! What a lovely post to read :) Congratulations!

One of the biggest hurdles we've had with jealousy is being able to talk about it. When my husband and I were in the beginning of exploring the boundaries of polyamory for our situation it was very awkward. When he would get jealous and/or feel hurt about something I had done, it was hard not...

My bf considers himself 'in a relationship' and is not seeking anyone else. He's honestly not sure how our little 'triad' will work down the road, but everyone agrees that we're very happy now. I can see him being a part of my life, always. I love my husband and bf a great deal and call it...

This is a big one for me. My hubby and I have been together for more than 13 years. We love each other and have so much trust and comfort with each other, which is why we have been able to persue polyamory. Now enter my bf into our V triad. To cut to the point, my bf is not comfortable...

My hubby and I had my bf with us for Christmas Eve and it was wonderful! We had some supper, exchanged gifts, watched a movie, then hung out for the rest of the evening together. We are not openly poly with many people, so being able to share 'special occasions' like Christmas Eve are...