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I find it really difficult that my life doesn't have a direction at the moment. As in I don't know what country I'll live in next year. I keep obsessing about different scenarios and coming up with different plans, not knowing which of them to pursue. Rationally I've decided to give myself some...

Wow, all of the Dustin things sound pretty intense, especially that abandoned dream thing! When it comes to his intentions with the flowers and over-the-topness, I can see where Oona is coming from, but I'm also inclined to agree with the others who commented here. He might be more over the top...

One good thing about having multiple relationships at the same time is that when one relationship ends, you can still get sex and/or intimacy from somewhere. I'm working from home today and Marco and I had a lunch date at my place. Oh my god, sex with him is so good! It just keeps getting...

It's a bit weird how quickly I've moved on from Jasmin in my mind. Maybe it was all the times she expressed insecurity about us that made me somewhat prepared for this, even though I didn't really want to believe it. I've been making plan B's for a long time. I can't even count the times when I...

Me and Jasmin officially broke up yesterday. It was definitely heading that way in any case after our talk last week, so that just felt like putting a stamp on something that had already happened. My mom called me yesterday evening (after Jasmin had left) and expressed how worried she is about...

Thanks Reverie! <3

Thanks for you kind words, Rockit49, opalescent, Phy and MeeraReed. :) <3 I talked to my housemates and they'd be happy to let me stay for as long as I want. And career-wise I also have a plan that involves letting myself take some time in my current city before moving anywhere but still...

So, it did happen after all. Jasmin chose Kaspar. :( She told me a few days ago that she doesn't want to move to the new country with me after all and instead wants to move in with Kaspar in our current country. I guess it's not all that surprising after all those signs, but I still had hope...

Thanks for your input, Rockit49. :)

I realise that I've developed a fear. I mean, some form of it has kind of been there ever since Jasmin and Kaspar met, but it became much worse after Jasmin's recent ponderings. I fear that if a long-ish time goes by without me and Jasmin spending time together, but she spends time with Kaspar...

Yaaay! :) This all sounds so wonderful, I'm very happy for you!

Interesting ponderings! I'm glad to see you and Rider getting on the same page eventually. I hope the full-poly negotiations go well when you start having them. :) The "heart wants this, but brain is worried about heartbreak" seems to be a really common problem. I've been there so many times...

I had an awesome date with Marco last night! :) I feel like we're slowly getting closer and closer. We've only seen each other once every 3-4 weeks so far, which I'm actually fairly happy about. We text maybe once or twice a week. It's a really low-pressure relationship. I like it a lot. I like...

I saw Noel a couple of days ago. It was the fourth time I've seen him in four months, so it seems that we've kind of settled into a rhythm of seeing each other once a month. He said that he probably can't see me at all in August, or maybe once at the very end of the month, so it seems to...

This is an interesting topic. For me, I feel that polyamory has the potential to give life more intensity, both good and bad. I felt the latter quite strongly at the end of last year when I had three break-ups in three months. But also, my birthday was a month before the string of break-ups, and...

Thanks Reverie, that was very much appreciated. :) Luckily we're out of the danger zone now. Jasmin was just having a bad brain weasel day, she told me later. She is still getting used to the idea of loving two people deeply and being committed to them both. So sometimes her monogamous...

Jasmin is struggling with polyamory at the moment. She said to me yesterday that sometimes she wonders if poly is the right choice for Kaspar. She also said that when she's with him, she could imagine being happy with just him, and when she's with me, she could imagine being happy with just me...

I'm so freaking happy right now. :) Me and Jasmin talked some more about our sex-related issue, really digged deep into what's causing it and what we can do differently. We figured out quite a few things that were contributing to it. And then later that same day we had like the best sex we've...

Yeah, I see that. I do believe it can work, but it needs time for building that connection. And time is something I don't have much of. So if this same thing came up in a different situation, where I didn't have a time limit, I would probably go for it. But right now it would just be frustrating...

Okay, so I just got home from a date that I didn't know was a date. :p A friend of a friend sent me a Facebook message a few days ago asking if I'd like to have dinner with her some time. She didn't specify that she meant it as a date. When I read the message, I thought it might be a date or it...