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well right now the shower is running so I'm listening to that.. musically I'm in a real 80's phase,Springsteen,Bryan Adams,INXS..love my 80's :cool:

I guess I would 'define' myself as an agnostic atheist..I was brought up Christian but by hte time I hit 21,I was so sick of having 'religion' rammed down my throat that I simply withdrew,and that is still how I feel today. My occupation has taught me to be evidence based and that is how I work...

I have alot of different names for my partner,all of which pertain to different parts of his personality..Mr Silly(the Mr Men character) is my main one because he can pull the silliest faces and do the dumbest things! ;) His nickname for me is GG (gorgeous girl) and for some reason it makes me...

I just had this discussion with my partner recently and one question I asked him was apart from me,who else do you feel a strong emotional connection to? I was not surprised when he named 2-3 of his female friends and it does not disturb me that he has those connections. What does bother me is...

Your feelings are valid, and in my opinion, he should not be pressuring you to make such an important decision so rapidly. This has all come as a big shock to you. You need time to absorb it, research it, and come to your own conclusions. He should not be using the other woman potentially moving...

Agreed,if there is no emotional connection there,then the risk of being used as a plaything and discarded is too great for me personally...

Welcome to the board,I'm from Downunder too (NZ) :)

I'm a mono currently in a relationship with a poly and I get on very well with and accept his relationship with his 'other'. In fact, she and I have become very close friends. I am the one he wants to be with, but he says she is also 'very special' and I'm not at all threatened by that. It's...

I have several close friends I talk to. even today when my partner and I were having issues about the amount of time he spends with his ex,my mother stepped in and gave me a little sage advice. Sometimes all I really need is a HUG xx

I'm in a LDR with my man,he is 1 hours plane flight away and fortunately if I book far enough in advance I can get cheap deals. At some point I will move closer to him,not 'with' him as he has 4 children who take up a considerable amount of time. Communication is absolutely the key,we have had...

I think we all find ourselves isolated in one way or another. For example,I am the only one in my family and group of friends that hasn't had children and boy is that painful to deal with. My partner has 4 children and it makes me sad that I don't have that kind of bond. My partner actually...

Even though you feel you need to help your husband through this and reclaim your marriage, I urge you not to forget who you are and what brought you on this journey. Good luck.

Something I learnt a long time ago, when I was in therapy after my breakdown, was using a thought log to try and balance negative assumptions or thoughts. When my partner used to go visit his ex, I'd get tied up in knots. But now I've logged the thought, written down evidence for and against the...

Like I've said before, Dazed, you DO deserve better than this. ((hugs)) I would be interested to know what you feel would keep you emotionally 'safe' right now. Staying with Nora, who rips your heart out by being with Nick, and disrespecting you, or getting out and finding a good support...

When I first met my poly partner, he was in a relationship with a totally 100% monogamous women who wanted the whole works, kids, marriage, etc. When she realised that wasn't going to happen, all hell broke loose-- temper tantrums, threats, you name it, and eventually some of that was directed...

If you are afraid of catching something, then you should do what you need to do to protect yourself. I have met my partner's other friend, and I get on very well with her, so we can all talk on an intimate level. We all have agreed to get STD checks every three months, even though there is only...

Welcome :)

exactly,communication is the key! Welcome to the board :)

I know you don't like seeing her hurt. But all you can do right now is be there for her, to pick up the pieces when it falls apart. And that doesn't sound too far off.

I was just saying to my partner earlier in the week that the reason we are fighting so much at the moment is because we both make assumptions and don't ask the questions we need to,lack of communication and probably an element of fear I think. He always says he wants to know how I'm feeling but...