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Ask your new boyfriend to answer this question, and then believe what he tells you. It's been three or four months. Just let your relationship grow into what it is going to be. He's probably not willing to try that for exactly the reason that he told you; because he didn't want to determine...

I guess that I just don't see these things as having a lot in common. Let me put it this way; if I met someone now who was married, had joint finances and owned property with someone else, that would have very little impact on my decision to date them. If they had kids, however, that would...

Rpcrazy, don't you know that all bi- people are attracted to every single person that they meet and that they have no innate sense of when making a pass is inappropriate? I thought everyone knew that.

Thank you for calling this out, RedPepper.

If I was the guy in this situation, I am pretty sure that my feelings of NRE would be more impacted by my resentment over the demand to end (or put on hold) a relationship I was already in than by my continuing it. If you're not great at communicating about this, and your partner has basically...

I don't think I understand what you're getting at. Dating someone with kids is a completely different experience than dating someone who doesn't have them. Dating someone who is involved in a long-term serious relationship is a completely different experience than dating someone who doesn't...

I was kind of wondering why so many people's responses seemed to assume that the relationship was worth further work. If everyone missed the fact that she was hitting the OP, that makes it somewhat easier to understand.

Dude, that's both hilarious and disturbing.

I idenitfy as straight. According to a 2002 CDC survey, 2.8% of women identify as bi-. After a rough count off the top of my head, something like a third of the women I've been involved with have identified as either bi- or lesbian. It seems pretty clear statistically that I am vastly more...

My bad, sorry!

First of all, thanks for the story. "I'm gay and think of myself as monogamous, but am actually sort-of kind-of dating a poly- domme" sounds a lot more like my life and circle of friends than a lot of questions that we get around here. Yes, that means that you're less mono- than you thought...

What does this mean? When I read something like this, I think that someone is saying that they want to justify feeling morally superior for not having a kind of sex that they aren't interested in. What do you mean when you say "I don't agree casual sex is right"?

You're not crazy; some of those events sound very hurtful. I strongly encourage you to pursue professional medical treatment to help with the emotional issues that you've been experiencing. There are poly- friendly counsellors out there, if that is a sticking point, and they are particularly...

Well, in theory, at some point in the future that time difference won't matter as much. It may one day make sense to all live together. But it sounds like this relationship is pretty new, so I'm not sure it makes a lot of sense to focus on this stuff right now. Instead, figure out if you can...

Too slow? Sometimes that makes sense, but I personally would almost never give that advice. Well, yes, but that is precisely the point! Going slowly (whether for yourself or for the sake of someone else) is an attempt to keep the relationship from growing as fast as it would naturally. One...

Yeah, I did, 'cause I thought you were being way too gentle.

Get out! Dear Gods, that was a lot of text. The three sentences above are all red flags for me. In the future, I'd advise getting to know the other guy(s) better, and work on communicating what is going on with you. If you communicated this to your girlfriend, then the rest of what follows...

Things I've learned from screwing up: Don't date people who would prefer you to not be dating someone you already are. Someone identifying as polyamorous, or as being part of the polyamorous community, is not really much of a predictor of whether or not they do poly relationships well. If I...

That's probably a common story to tell, but it posits that sex is the thing that caused the falling in love, which I don't buy. It also posits that the friendship would have continued indefinitely if it hadn't been for the person wanting sex actually getting it, which I also don't buy. There...

You're in a long-distance relationship with somebody with mental health issues who is making a good faith effort to work on them, and that you are unwilling to break things off with. You got into this relationship while you, presumably, still had feelings for your ex-. Look, I normally am an...