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Me too! :D

I don't know if anyone would call us "straight laced", lol. We're both still in our 20s though, so maybe it's expected for us to not "fit" a certain mold.

Glad you've arrived at some conclusions, and will able to work with them as you move forward, now that you know what the issues are. Nice to see you again!

No judgement here Red. I know you're still feeling your way through, but just know that's pretty much all you can do at this juncture. Shifts in relationships, mono, poly, with yourself... they can all be very painful, and eye-opening as well. Try to stay present with self above all; there is...

I didn't even really come into my own in terms of claiming bisexuality before I ventured into researching more on poly but for me, it makes sense because I'm more interested in other ways of developing relationships outside the traditional realm. It just suits my needs and fits my life better...

Kind of. Early on in the relationship we acknowledged that although we wanted to be together, there were sexual experiences we had not yet had, and so we both wanted the freedom to pursue said experiences. It wasn't until maybe a year or so later that SO explained his desire to have another...

That wasn't poly; he was cheating on you. Ethical non-monogamy and cheating are not one and the same and never will be. As for you wanting him to himself, slow down. You're caught up right now, in emotions and flooding and good feels. When you can examine it more closely out of the lovey haze...

Just as a side note, I think people in general really don't mess with the concept because it makes it seem like the other relationships are disposable, and seeing as how there are a few here who are OSOs, that their feelings are disposable as well. I'm not saying that's how you feel or what you...

I find when it comes to certain situations, its necessary to do the 'we' thing, but not before consulting my SO or at least being 95% sure of what he's relayed to me in conversations before. I have always seen myself as 'me' whether in a relationship or not. Before my current I didn't even do...

From what you've described I think it might be possible that he have some kind of undiagnosed mood or personality disorder. Sometimes we act out in ways that don't make sense because there are underlying things going on. I'm not sure how willing he'd be to go to a doctor to see about that but I...

I myself have discovered recently that I hate detail. We're about to move and having to deal with the little things is bothersome to me and I'd prefer my SO figure it out and execute while I do other stuff that's beneficial to us. We work better that way and I'm happier that way. Yep. All of...

I take them at their word and stop pursuing them romantically. My SO does as well, but he tries to educate. Accepting it is a start. Conflicted emotions are fine but he can handle a "no thanks". One for now. We're open (he's actively looking, I'm not) for potential. As for successfully...

Love the part about Eddie. When you come across those kinds of relationships, that gradual trust and understanding, where you can just be? Hold tight.

I'm out to the people that matter, the ones closest to me. I'll be out to any potential partners in the future. Anyone else might or might not find out in their own time. I don't worry about it at this point.

Things are becoming clearer to you. Always a good thing. I would definitely go for the "forget this guy" option. You really can't convince anyone who can't be convinced. Some things just are what they are and it's up to him to examine his own ideals.

Love this, GG. I wanna put it on my bedroom wall!

Too many? Hmm. I'm sure my SO thought at some point that the amount of partners I've had is too many but obviously it didn't mean too much since we're still together with a child, lol. I didn't care what his number was; that isn't an indicator of anything weird to me. It sure does still matter...

I have a very close friend who has BPD in addition to bipolar disorder, so some of this is familiar. Thing is, he's one of the most self-aware people I've met in my life. I believe this is due to over a decade of consistently working on his responses and differentiating between what's...

If that's how you are, then I would just go ahead and send her an email and be done with it. Me personally, I don't mince words and so my best bet has always been to drop out of sight.

Honestly based on the responses I've heard and read from other women about dating bisexual men, this is quite common. They mention the whole competition thing a LOT. I can't personally wrap my head around it, because if you think about it, nothing is a competition unless you make it one, imo. I...