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TBH IMO him going on ahead with this trip wasn't smart or well thought out at all. The approach to telling you in the first place was borne of dishonesty, and I'm surprised you aren't ready to put his stuff outside. Yes, he came clean about it, but he needed to stay put and work on the...

It always helps to have outside perspective, positive and even negative too. I'm with you on the huge-and-important part too, as I've had to distance myself from most of my family as well because of my relationship. Generally I try to steer clear of people that would hamper it, and it'll be the...

Honestly my only thought regarding Laura is she needs to pump her brakes NOW. She is doing too much for one person and she's starting to burn out. Her primary relationships with you and Mark are taking the hits, not to mention her own personal well-being. I don't know how you can bring it up...

Good point. I've mentioned before to my SO that I'd have to meet a metamour before they got deeply involved, physically and otherwise. He didn't respond too kindly to the idea but frankly some of the posts here just confirm my thought process in regards to it. I might direct him here to read lol.

This has been one of the more entertaining threads I've read since I joined the forum, lmao. I didn't even know where to start in response to the OP.

That's interesting. That's probably how he would describe it too. He just likes watching people have sex in general (moreso in person), so I've realized that him watching me have sex would be no different.

I actually don't think that's the case. I think there are plenty of men who are voyeurs, but since there seems to be negative thoughts associated with that form of arousal, they may not be as comfortable expressing how they feel. It's probably why I myself was taken aback when my SO informed me...

Thank you for letting us know you're alive and well BU. Hope you and Vanilla can come to some sort of understanding and peace soon.

Glad to hear that all has been calm and things are being sorted out. :)

OMG... I hope she's okay. :( Sending you good thoughts Vanilla. Keep heart and stay hopeful.

I second SN's post. I think if you can recognize how differently you guys see things, it's easier to negotiate boundaries and explain how they can work for everyone's benefit.

I think the ceremony will be a good thing. I know some people are against bringing kids around when it comes to death and dying, but honestly in a lot of cases I don't think it does them any favours. It's important to have that time to say goodbye. And look how far you've come! The spinning has...

Agreed. I've noticed I tend to be calmer and even feel compersion when I have my own line of communication with whomever my SO shows interest in. Everyone and everything outside of that is more of a struggle.

Yeah, I'm not down with that train of thought either, which is why I left it out of my post lol. He probably coulda made it more palatable by referring to himself only and not monogamy as an overarching detriment to the world.

It doesn't surprise me that he's non-monogamous. Honestly I imagine as a celeb with a lot of success it could be trying to be as traditionally mono as you're programmed to be or by nature are very much so. This was my favourite part though: "What am I actually saying to you? I don’t want you...

*waves*

Yeah... I think I'll pass on that kind of thing. It seems...odd.

Just wanted to tell you I find this awesome. It's something that I haven't even really thought about, since things haven't progressed in that direction yet. But I'll definitely note it, for sure. Thanks for sharing! :)

Can't rush the process or yourself Red (but you know that). Just stay with it. Try to narrow the focus a bit and brake hard. You keep spinning, you'll find things that aren't even there.

I find this SO FRIGGIN SWEEEEEEET. :o