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People aren't things you can just dispose of whenever you feel like it. Getting up one day and deciding to date a random so he can feel better about everything isn't going to help you or him or your relationship with him.

This sounds awesome! I've realized over time that I'm very, I don't know what to call it, woman-centered? Like I hold my relationships with women in the highest regard, their well-being in the highest regard, things like that. I take my identity as a woman seriously and often look for strength...

I haven't been around long and I've gotten tired of it too. Sometimes I feel like people haven't really thought it through before pursuing that kind of relationship. The unicorn is pretty much disposable from the outset.

Here's what I'm getting from what's been posted so far: BU is aware of issues that have arisen, and acutely so, to the point of wanting to move home to her disapproving mother. Vanilla is somewhat aware but is insistent on glazing things over and pressing on. That's what I'm reading tbh. I...

Sorry to hear that the people you're making friends with only have knee-jerk reactions instead of learning for themselves what you're talking about. I wouldn't worry too much though; the college experience is still fresh. You could always look up poly groups in the area, maybe, or more forums...

Sounds good! I love when I get those inner self-awareness shifts. I can literally feel it whenever it happens. Here's to more of those in the near future for you! *cheers*

Why is sex a threat any more than an important loving relationship is? I think the weight that sex carries in a broader society sense has a lot to do with it, so a romantic nonsexual relationship may not be deemed as 'romantic' in general, because there is no sex involved. For some people it's...

Haha, you sound just like me, except I'm a mom. I think my need for space and personal freedom is part of what is thrilling to watch my son become more and more independent as the days go by. I'll love him at every stage but once he started walking there was such cheer in my heart, lmao. And...

I'm not a therapist or anything of the sort but it sounds like she exhibits some histrionic behaviour. I wouldn't engage her anymore. She might be incapable of practicing the ethics she claims to have. Just to give you an idea of what I'm referring to...

Sounds great! Sending good thoughts and positive vibes your way for when the time comes.

What an ass. You're better off without.

My s/o loves to touch, so I'm sure if he took the test that would be his main thing, while mine is not. I can go for days without. He's teased me about throwing his arm off me during sleep and all I could counter with was, "Well, you know it's not comfortable for me and all that" because it...

Well, at least you know you guys are on the same page with reference to moving. That's a positive.

Trust can definitely be rebuilt if the person being dishonest is willing to do the work on their inner selves and also with you. If DH does not want to do any of the above you may have to make some difficult choices. You cannot continue to let him put your health, mental and otherwise, at risk...

Oh boy, what a turnaround. Here's hoping you guys go to counseling soon, and can get residual issues out on the table.

This comes as a shock to the system because when you enter into a monogamous relationship, you don't expect for it to be anything but that. Many people are led to believe that while their s/o may have wanted others before becoming exclusive, it's not expected to be the case once you're committed...

I wanna say I'm surprised your wife initiated something physical with Ahmed after all this, but I'm not. She denied you the ability to masturbate and look at other women. Your self-esteem is not on the up-and-up.

Wow. Great thread. I honestly don't even know. I assumed my ideal relationship in the beginning would've been me in a V with my husband and a girlfriend, but now I'm not so hard-pressed on that as a goal. If I met another man and we connected, I would go for that too. I am particularly set on...

I asked this in another thread, and I gotta ask here too: WHY this guy? WHY him? No one, according to this post I've quoted, is going to benefit from him even being around short-term. Not him. Not you. Not your wife. Frankly all of this sounds horrible. ALL of it. The rational decision is...

EEK!!!!!!! So excited for you! Have fun for me too while you're there, lol!