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Well, I then take that feedback back into our relationship.

So here are my thoughts/answers to when I was asked. I can offer intelligence, dating, and a relationship without games and BS, but instead with pure honesty. This is not a question for me, but for her. I'd be down, as parents help make the person. My folks are awesome, and I'm actually...

From my thread, "Paradigm Shift to Polyamory" I thought this reply deserved its own string. I was asked this question and I confronted it with honesty, but I'd like other perspectives. I really liked Mono's response here. (I just realized the similarity of my name sounds like I'm really mono as...

Honesty vs. Games Like a sledgehammer to a house of cards.

Well, tell 'em to stop and say hi I'm not sure how that will work, I really don't want my wife to come on here, as I use this place to help me collect and organize my thoughts and receive feedback.

Awesome posts Great questions, great support. And I think a lot of people who found this lifestyle realized that Monogamy was stifling all aspects of their lives. When we made this leap into our new chapter in our lives, all of that changed. All fears were lost when confronting or sharing our...

Okay, so it went well. Highlights: Platonic relationship with Sally. Lots of good talking. I learned that she is pursing a monogamous relationship with a guy she was considering breaking up with, but reconsidered. She hinted that if that didn't work out that something else might happen with...

So tonight... I'm meeting with Sally tonight, Ms. "What is a gal like me going to get out of dating a married man like you?" This the first time that I'll be interacting with her since things went cold, and I'm not certain how it's gonna go down. This is an odd one. I didn't figure I'd get so...

Nothing awkward here It is just an odd water temperature to get used to. I had a wonderful weekend, though it started a bit troubled. I was hit pretty hard by the news of my friend not feeling good about getting involved with me. As SeventhCrow said, it was bittersweet, and I really did not...

I paint acrylic on canvas Mostly interested in character studies, and Katie West is my inspiration. Yummy... This new infatuation is someone else that I'd like to paint. Perhaps I can maneuver a chance to see her soon. And being threadjacked at least means people are reading. I just hope my...

Happy that this experience maybe helping others. First off... this forum has been immensely helpful for me during this whole thing. Alice has always gone out by herself. So she is out when she's with Jim, and I don't have to worry about that. She doesn't stay there, but just today I realized...

Wow, very similar I have to admit though, mine was not a stumble-by-accident kind of thing. As for the whole social work network... Yikes. While you work at home, I'm a high school teacher. I sometimes ponder the okayness of surfing this forum on my own laptop while on their system. Yes, I'd...

Update I haven't written about this today, but my budding romance has been stifled. I played pool with Sally last night and was really enjoying the way things were going. Then we decided to sit down and talk for a little while before we both went back to our homes. I could go on and on about...

Thanks for your concern... But life's never that cut and dried. While I was sexless, I was happy in many ways, just frustrated. You are implying that there is tons of bitterness left in all of that. There isn't. We were just applying the wrong rules to the game. As for why we were so hesitant...

Considering outing myself to friends I'm about to go on my third outing with Sally. Things are going well. Last night I went over to her place and enjoyed her hot tub (win!). While I wasn't sure what was going to happen on that visit, everything happened the way we wanted it to go. Our first...

great advice. That's about all i had to say :)

Friendship with your primary's partner is paramount Nothing set me at ease more about our new decisions than hanging out with my wife's boyfriend. It put it all into perspective and built more respect for him and my wife. I've found that I really cherish their relationship and I *want* them to...

It shifted fast, but it was a long time coming We've been together since 1999 and known one another since '97 as great friends, so that's why the the transition was easy. High levels of openness are required, as well as powerful amounts of love and respect for one another's separate lives...

I'm not sure if "a bit more" is meant to be a good or bad impression. But thanks for the read.

Does the woman have to be poly Or just attracted to you, and not dependent on a relationship where she will requires your full attention and focus? I'm recently entered your situation. Read my "paradigm shift to poly" thread, and you'll see everything I was fearing. What it took for me was...