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yep, its in the concise Oxford: "expressing hesitation, or a pause in speech." There you have it.

You are of couse excused but whatever for? (:

Um. I'm not looking for a combination or a situation. I'm looking for people. Precisely, to relate to people, to relate as fully as possible to as many people as possible who i have that spark with. How many people that is and how fully isn't build into me or lover/s but into circumstance. As...

I was drawn to multiple relations long before i was ever in a couple. The point is i want to get involved with certain INDIVIDUALS, and i don't mind, in principle, if those individuals are also seeing other people - living together, occasionaly, whatever. What i'm not looking for it to have to...

Yes i understand your sentiment. I dream of seeing a particular someone who is with someone, have done for years. I've been single for 6 years and and first i mourned bitterly the lack of a partner but now I'm growing to like parts of it. It occured to me that the advantage of getting together...

I like how quath sees this but i'd add that labelling OURSELVES by our sexual practices (which may, in any case, change over time) is kinda limiting. I prefer to think of it as having/doing poly relations. I think, redpepper, that what's hassling you is not what is poly but what is a...

See - sigh -i just can't bring myself to divide the world into Two Kinds of People. I'm not commited to poly as a principle. It works sometimes for some combinations of people and i cann;t start from that. I start from meeting someone and feeling that spark and hitting it off. From there people...

thanks everyone - I probably just needed to let off steam and hear that i'm not mad for feeling hurt about this. Of course the basic fact of the matter is that someone i liked chose someone else over me and there's no getting around that that hurts, and i'm not wanting to try and convert him...

guy breaks up with me saying he's met someone else and he feels he's monogamous, as if this is self-explanatory. wasn't he supposed to not start with someone else if he was so monogamous? why do some monogamists, especially the serial kind, seem to think that breaking up won't be painful for us...