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Thanks for the update Mono. I hope it's not too traumatic for RP's parents. My wife has recently come out about our 3 to a few of my employees. They are quite taken aback by it, more than I had imagined they would be. I'm a bit disappointed in them for that. They've known us for 15 years. They...

luv the unicorn dog tag idea, that's great........

Nature or nurture? For me, it's a personal choice to live life fully but it's also in my DNA to act on my thoughts, to nurture, support and love. Can we as humans suppress our thoughts and desires? Of course, but we can also choose to act on them. Our society has developed religious and...

Nice to have you on here.

Tremendous insight and advice on here so far from James and Quath. My take is your wife may indeed be poly, if she ends up in a loving intimate relationship with this TK, if it's just a FWB deal, then she's just swinging......you may indeed be great at compersion, or you may just have a fetish...

Glad to know you're working on it Van.......all we really have in life is our health. Everything else we have feeds off of that. Keep working at it with the counselors, meds etc.....things will surely improve for you with time and effort.

Sorry to hear this pain is dragging on and so deep for you Van.....to a certain degree it's normal....but, you have a family, a spouse, kids, etc that should be provoding you with a good measure of happiness and fulfillment in your life....I fear this is dragging on to a depth that is not...

I would imagine security is a tremendous factor....I have gone way out of my way to ensure total security to both my wife and my OSO....and still they both have doubts and insecurities......I don't know what else more to do....

RP and Mono, you are soooo funnnyyyy! But I understand completely. I am tormented by my two ladies during similar activities. It is a very desirable torment though. I wouldn't have it any other way! RP, I wish my ladies would offer up some comments/support for you, but so far they have been...

Welcome, Great Hunter!

Quath, I do too.....and that was the gist of my response. Just threw the religious bone out there for someone else to chew on.

I'm still torn on this issue. Like Mono, I don't think it's really anyone's business and no big deal to me, but on the other hand, I think people would probably stare less when I walk down the street with both my ladies hand in hand if they knew more about the poly movement. I guess I'm still...

RP, there is no set side or order for my ladies. Wherever they are is where they are. I must say my wife will often make a point of nudging me toward the space between them, if I stray to one side to window shop! She realizes how important it is to my OSO to feel an equal part of this threesome...

Love the cracker!!!!!!

Yes it is, Mono! I have also noticed quite a few odd looks from the 15-18 year olds in the shopping malls. They seem a little puzzled, at first., I guess since we're all probably their parents' ages. While they are a little more acclimated to their generation having multiple partners (they think...

RP, Mono, I am so happy for how things are going for you all. RP, you say the same stuff my OSO says when we're out in public. She wants to show PDAs, but we're still not out locally, either. Mono, when we're out of town all 3 together, I will walk hand-in-hand with each of them at times and...

It sounds like you two are taking a good approach to life in general and your marriage in particular. I am impressed and at the same time not surprised. It would seem to me to be a natural progression of a healthy, trusting and mature relationship. Wanting to be happy and explore options in your...

I have come to this place in middle age with the realization that my soul has changed in the last 30 years as have I as a person, so why can't my soul mate or definition of a soul mate too? If I have recently come to the realization that I have room in my heart and soul for more than one other...

That is great news!

If she's cheated on you right from the start of the marriage, something is very askew here. Why has she cheated? Maybe she never loved you in the first place? Was this a marriage of convenience at the time? How old are you both now? I love solving problems that no one else can; it's my forte...