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Makes perfect sense to the poly peolpe here, that's the way we feel, too....may not make sense to your men if they are both very mono.....you need to talk.:)

Thank you for the kind words, Rarechild....I appreciate them. You and James are not wrong in your comments, in fact they are perfect.....and I am not wrong in mine, either. I simply am happy where I am in this life as Mono and probably a few others on here are also. Those of us content in our...

It is a largely fluid process, being poly...... and very few people even on this board can agree on a single definition or term. How is the public to see this? It will all just be confusing to the masses who aren't poly. Again, I don't think we need a giant poly day parade. I don't think...

RP, you are quite thought provoking. I'm sure you keep Mono and PN on their toes! I couldn't agree more with your last sentence. I think we will find in the next 20-30 years so many damaged women and so many confused men. Many will be lost to the raping and pillaging they face now, early in...

I'd have to agree with Thirdwheel here and try to distance yourself permanently from this psycho.....you don't need people like that taking up valuable room in your life. Secondly, I have to agree with Ceoli (which I rarely do, lol) and say get to a shelter, if only for a few days til you fly...

I think it's a complex vs. simple issue IMO......society is still grappling with the rather simple issue of gay vs. straight...now you throw poly into the mix with all of it's combinations/derivations and I think it's a bit overwhelming for most people in society to comprehend/deal with. Maybe...

I've tried to teach them (some semblance of decency values) to my boys, and for the most part they've listened and behaved better than most, while still enjoying life. It's just scary, what's gotten into the young women of today. Could it be they modeled themselves after the aggressive male...

The "slut culture" is all the rage here in party Florida! Alcohol is widely abused by young kids who can't handle it. The 17, 18, 19 year old girls bedding one guy after another every night of the week is pretty yucky. Most times they are so drunk, they don't even know who they're with. The...

Good points raised by both RP and Quath. My comments were generalized, meant to be aimed toward the adults here, not pointed toward the youth just starting out in the sexual world. They clearly require more teaching, more self respect, maybe more values? Not to be confused with religious...

Van, you just got dusted with a high and tight fastball! Pick yourself up, grab the bat and get back in the box ready to hit again! (just sticking with the sports stuff, lol):)

I did, XYZ. Not to worry, I laughed. I do see your point about old age and it is a valid argument.

Ceoli, you quoted me out of context...if you read the rest of my post it has to do with man imparting guilt onto fellow man....not a good situation and one that I won't participate in.

Van, it sounds like he's still wounded and trying to stay a little insulated from you right now. Can you blame him? Just let him know you're mad at yourself and not him. Let him know you'll be there if he ever wishes the old friendship back. Then just give him time. It's about all you can do and...

Too funny, Fidelia! Yes, sane works a lot better for me too. The poly life can strain anyone's sanity, though. Glad to hear you're the current record holder. You would think at some point, he'd fatigue and quit looking for or dreaming about maybe a #5! Continued good luck in that endeavor!

Whew! I'm glad you took my reply well. I was hoping not to come off as some kind of know-it-all. My worrisome side is concerned with you being the "4th wife." Obviously, this guy has issues, or he's always been poly in a mono society, lol. I live in a town populated by wealthy guys who've...

Tremendous story. Rare... It would make good reading for many people here. We all can learn something every day! Continued happiness to you and your loved ones!

Having many loves, implies many lovers, implying not being asexual. Having many friends you love does not.

No harm (physical and/or emotional), no foul. Full, informed consent is a must... and everything Quath said, lol. I guess society craves a single guiding light, a norm, to hold out before every person as an example. At least it has for thousands of years, til now. Maybe this generation and this...

Welcome, there is much support on here and plenty of good people to be there for you.

I'm hurting for you, Fidelia. I stand by my previous post. It was pretty callous of both of them... or pre-meditated.