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Hey, Mono, my brother. Been busy with work and of course, since I'm now poly, I have twice the honey-do list! Been through a bit of a war the past week. Thought my wife had finally asked for the divorce neither one of us really wanted, but cooler heads have prevailed. We all three realize...

You been served, YGirl!

Jeez, it sure seems like we're all quite a mish-mash of social or not! Makes you think there really is no norm, just a whole lot of gray, doesn't it? Good question, YGirl.

Rarechild raises some very interesting points......There are undoubtedly numerous avenues to explore before ending up poly....how did each of us get here?....life is just one big trial and error screenplay. Monogomy is supposed to be the entire show, marriage to death. Low and behold somewhere...

Nice to hear the update, Jamie. I think we've all had that friend at one time or another who we probably should've hooked up with, but never did. Good luck and good loving in your future!

IMO, this fella obviously has commitment issues with you. He may be poly, but he's not committed to you and his relationship with you. In other words. he's nothing more than a swinger masquerading as poly. I give you an A+ for effort in trying to meet his expectations with his poly lifestyle...

So very happy for all of you. What a great family you will all have. I'm sure it makes many on here, just a little bit envious! *jumping up and down dancing for you*:)

Nyx, You raise some interesting points about your bf and your relationship with him. I'm going to play devil's advocate here for a minute, with all due respect to Redpepper! From a guy's viewpoint, finding excuses as to why we can't be closer or more active in the relationship, or to say I...

Mono and Aussie have hit the nail squarely on the head....I couldn't have given a better description. Love gets down in your gut so deep in your soul, nothing else exists there. Friendship/platonic love exists on an entirely different plane, not superficially like in a totally casual...

I've had relationships where every criteria on your list was met. However at some point, items on the list got deleted or went unmet, and bingo! I had to compromise or change something to adjust. It seems to me that you have two choices when this happens: 1. Stay in the relationship...

XYZ123, it just seems like this wasn't the right combination (of people) for you, with the right set of respected boundaries. I wish you luck in finding what you want with whom you want. Don't give up!

No debate here, Mono. My wife would agree with you 100%. She's ok with all PDAs, kissing, any signs of affection around the house with my other life love. She's even ok with the emotional side of it. But she still struggles with the sex side of it. I understand her issue, but am clearly not...

Like anything else in life, I think we grow tolerant of certain people/things/behaviors. We take feelings, situations, etc., for granted. And who among us, hasn't settled for 7 out of 10 things on your list, thinking that might be the best we're ever gonna do? It's just more of that human-nature...

Nice list. I would think to most people, poly or not, most of this is a given.

Fantastic! Mutual doom!!!! Doesn't get any better than that, people!

Welcome, Catfish. I think you'll find lots of great support from the many happy-to-help people here.

So much good advice here, FLgirl. I don't disagree with anybody's input that you've received thus far; it is all terrific. Regarding you, however, obviously there are issues that have gone on for a long time in your life. Was your adventurous sexuality in your past a way of coping for other...

Very good advice, Redpepper, bound to help more than a few people here.

Van, this is good.....we all are continually learning about ourselves. This is a long and winding road, to steal some Beatles mojo......what scares me is when people fail to see/learn along the way. How terrible to remain stagnant or stuck in our evolution with eachother whether friends...

Quath, you bring up some good points. The way things are now, is NOT the way they previously were.