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Compersion is not an issue for me. Earlier in life it may have been, but at this stage whatever pleases my spouse is fine with me. But then again, I'm more easily the poly one in the house! My mono wife was unaware of the word and it's meaning til I recently gave her info on it. A book is also...

Um....excuse me.

There are so many possible scenerios in this poly life. I hope you find the right combination/situation you're looking for.

Aquiring is as good in IMO.......desire is the appetizer, aquire the main course and long term happiness the dessert......so happy for you that compersion has fallen into your lap....we are still working toward that. Hopefully it arrives soon!

We are well on our way to "well off" Mono......wealthy may be 6-12 months away yet! lol.....still working on complete compersion first.

It should be here in a couple days, Mono. Going on vacation next week and hope to get to read it while I'm gone. Will let you know what the Mrs. and my other think of it.

SK, even though we three are not yet "all in" on the same page with the "V", I can tell you living under the same roof with the two women you want to share the rest of your life with is something very special.

SK, you are so right. They are two entirely different things. Neither is wrong or right, they are just different and work for different people. But, I'm with you on this in my def of poly.

Mono, that's wonderful news. Sounds very refreshing to be so open with everyone you know. Hope we get there someday.

Mythical, I'm so sorry one guy had to ruin it for the rest of us. It is better you found out now though, before you invested any more time and emotion with him. Just so you know, it's usually guys who are childish, insecure and closed-minded who react the way he did. He probably wasn't prepared...

YGirl hit the nail right on the head.

Any communication will help. You have to communicate with each other for this to have any prayer of it working, long term. Without it, every relationship will end up short term, or not being anywhere near what it could be. Mono, thanks for the link on the book. I ordered a copy. There's gotta...

That's wonderful Vandalin. Hope you two can deal with the distance successfully. Good luck! Oh yeah....the NRE.......ain't it grand?

Life changes and for me we change. Aging and circumstances have led myself to move in a poly direction with my wife of 27 years and our best friend, another woman. For me it cannot be platonic, although in my younger years, I was the platonic male friend to many women. For my definition, I do...

It's always scary to reveal yourself and and hope your spouse or new love can understand. You must move forward though, if you truly want to give this poly life a go. Talk, talk and talk with both Dylan and Alex. You might be surprised at the lengths people will go to for a strong loving...

Destiny, I think maybe the kicker was she had two kids. She probably didn't or couldn't come to grips with how to deal with this situation and her kids. I know it's made it immensely easier for us three with all our kids grown and headed off to college. It just removes a huge hurdle.

DestinyWaits, Quath and Vandalin have presented good views on this subject. Another I may offer is that things may not always be what they appear to be. I hate to question anyone's motives, but perhaps she was not the person you and your husband thought she was or were in love with. Maybe...

Semantics here. My comment about being bipolar was directed at XYZ123, not you Stargazer. Please read all through the posts. If it wasn't clear, I'm sorry. And it makes no difference if you have lucid periods, or are in remission of your bipolar-ness, you are still bipolar and have a mental...

You answered your own question. You have a mental illness. You are bipolar, thus the reason for your "asexuality," due to no desire to have sex. It doesn't mean it's wrong to be asexual, it's just you have a definitely reason why you are. I rest my case.

YGirl, you confirmed my hypothesis. Thank you. And sorry to hear about your other guy. I hope you can or have been able to help him work through some of his issues. Keep lovin'.