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Just curious. Are you still looking for many men to only be dating you?

First lemme start with *HUG*. I'm really sorry you're going through that kind of torment. And from what I read, you definitely sound tormented. In reading, one thing came to mind over and over again. Why aren't you two talking about this?? I know that you said that there is some history...

*big teddybear type hug*

Thanks!! I still have my days when selfish Danny comes out and says, BUT DAMNIT I CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY!!! But he goes away quickly when he remembers that that approach almost got him booted out of the picture completely. If she ever decides to open up her options I'll be here, and if not...well...

So true.

Thanks Mono. I've definitely gotten more out of our friendship now that I've learned how to deal with my feelings. I love her and she knows it. This isn't for her and I know it. It is what it is, but we have a friendship that is far too valuable to me to ruin anything.

Thanks SG. I wasn't always happy with it, but realized that I'd rather have her in my life as a friend than not at all.

Please do!! I agree that some sort of counseling would benefit all of you. However if he's not big on talking to you or his gf of six years, do you think he'll open up to a therapist? Maybe he's gotten comfortable in the fact that his gf won't ever leave him. I'm not saying that's the case...

This is all still new to both of them so I'm sure things are all kinds of unstable. I think it's great that you're taking his feelings into consideration. It's what any good gf would do, but talking about it may be what he needs. Especially with his gf. In case you couldn't tell I'm an...

I've posted about this before. To recap, I've been friends with R for 5 years and have loved her pretty much from the start. She knows all about me and the girls and knows that it's just not for her. So long as I have her in my life in some fashion I'm ok with that. Before I was seeking...

Wow, that's a long time. I've been with my wife for that long and I couldn't fathom her not being around. Maybe talking about the loss you BOTH feel will help things. It may help you both sort out your own individual feelings. I've really never seen where communication is a bad thing...

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. I have no words of advice, but can offer a shoulder should you ever need to talk. *hug*

You're definitely in a rough spot. I didn't mean to imply that he didn't care about or having feelings for you, but he's still number 1 in his world. I've never even thought about asking to have my penis touched while in a threesome. I thought I was blessed simply by being in a threesome. Ya...

The girls and I will be having our annual feast, then the weekend will be spent in a cabin in the mountains with good friends. Can't wait!! Hope everyone enjoys their holiday!!

Yikes!! Sorry that most people suck. :( My advice is this. You and R are happy right? He's working through poly and learning what it's all about right? In that case, EFF WHAT EVERYONE ELSE SAYS!!!! :D I have a motto. If you don't pay my bills, then your opinion doesn't matter. My...

So how old is this guy? Because all I'm seeing is someone that's involved in a sexual threesome, not a polyamorous relationship. He's living every man's dream and that's all he can think about? I used to be more selfish when I was younger, until I realized that it's AS MUCH FUN TO PLEASE MY...

Not sure if this is gonna help, but here's my experience. I'm also in a triad. We all live together and sleep in the same bed. Believe it or not, sex with all of us works just like it did when it was just my wife and me. By that I mean it happens when it happens. We don't have a schedule or...

I'm glad that your day with him went well. I know it's only been a couple of days since that, but how are things? Any luck with his wife opening up?

Have you told him that? If not, maybe you should let him read what you wrote. I can also see where you would give him a lot of leeway to keep things where they are. Just don't stay in something where you're not happy. Like I said earlier, they both have to take your feelings and emotions...

Step in the right direction!!! I completely understand the "that's how she is, so you should accept it" because that's what my wife told me at the start. LOL I told her that wasn't going to work if we really wanted to live this way. Considering she was the one that initially suggested we...