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As usual, Mono has a wonderful suggestion. Not the route that I was going to go, but upon reading, that may be the better option. I'm a fan of communication. You said that you've all talked about what could be done to help, and you can think of nothing. What is it about her having a sexual...

Welcome to the boards. Hope you enjoy your stay here!

We started this lifestyle as swingers. It was fun, but we realized that there was something else that we were missing. That was when we both realized that it felt as if "we" were "single" and having meaningless sex with people. (Hope that wasn't too confusing) We started doing more talking...

She sounds like my wife during our early years. Unfortunately that's not something that works well with this lifestyle. One of the hardest hurdles my wife had to overcome was her inability to talk about her feelings and emotions. It wasn't something her family did so she wasn't used to it...

Welcome to the boards, Malibu. I hope you find a lot of great information and I'm sure you'll meet a lot of great people. Enjoy your stay!!

Tough spot Ray. Very sorry for the frustration. Kudos to you for doing things according to the slowest members pace. I've always said that's one of the biggest keys to success in this lifestyle. I hope that she will work through her concerns quickly so you two can progress... ...If of...

AWESOMENESS!!! Congrats and I'm so happy for you. Just made my day a lil brighter. Thank you!!

love this!!!!

WELCOME!!! And whaddya know we have our very own SUPERWOMAN here!!! :) Kudos to you and yours and hope to see ya around!!

I'm not sure that length is important. I can think of people who have been in bad relationships for years, and then I had the experience of our first live in gf, who passed away after only 13mos. That was one of the best relationships of my life and it was just over year. I think it's...

A "good" relationship to me is one that is based on honesty and trust. After 12 years of being with my wife there is NOTHING that we keep from each other. Her best friend came up a couple of weeks ago and when they were alone asked my wife if there was anything she needed to complain about in...

Welcome back Justbeloving. Let me start by saying that I'm sorry you're in this particular situation. I love the analogy that Mono used. Hit it right on the head. Have you thought about having him join this site so he can read some others experiences? The only other words of advice I have...

Hey eklctc, thanks for the kind words. I'm a little confused as to your situation. Not sure if you wanted to get into it on here, but if not, could you message me? As far as my situation goes, my legal wife and I have been with our wife for 3 years now. We all live together, sleep in the...

If it is, then I'm a sex addict. Ok, don't mean to make light of the situation, but to me masturbation isn't sex because I'm flying solo. Sex, for me, has to include at least one other person. Preferably 2!! :D

I think it may have something to do with it, but I feel MusicalRose hit it right on the head. Our society has made this lifestyle taboo, but if you look elsewhere, it can be a fairly common practice. Now to go along with what you're saying Jokutus, you typically see a man with many wives, but...

I think what Red said was on point, however I can see where you would feel like it was a double standard. Ekltc also had a good question. Are her fears due to the fact that she had a bf before you and her were poly? Definitely curious about that fact. Use this to open up lines of...

I agree Red, and that's what I was referring to in my post Derby. If you feel uncomfortable, then you have to let your husband know this and it should be up to him to help alleviate that. It can be a very tricky situation, but you should never feel like the outsider in your own home. Seems...

What Mono said, but it seems like you came up with a good solution too!! LOL In all seriousness, what Mono said was on point. It's not your responsibility to ask her to leave in the morning, but if you're having these thoughts then you need to communicate them to hubby. It's his job to set...

Welcome MusicalRose! I'm sure you'll find lots of great info and awesome people to help you out with questions. If you and your significant other are open and honest with each other and anyone else that you may bring in to your relationship then this journey will be a touch easier. Notice I...

You're very welcome Cocoa. It's tough to have confidence in yourself especially when EVERYONE has an opinion about what YOU'RE doing with YOUR life. Ain't that crazy?? One thing that has always helped is this motto. If they don't pay your bills, then their opinion doesn't matter. This...