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Thank you Annabel. I haven't asked because it just occurred to me and also I am not sure if she is even aware of it. It is just the way how she behaves sometimes that made me thinking.

This is not exactly a poly issue, but I don't know a better place to ask. I have a friend (not mentioned on this board) about whom I suspect that she is submissive. Can you recommend any good message board or a book on the D/s dynamic?

1. There is something missing in my life. 2. There is no reason to dump my partner in life with whom I match on so many levels, with whom I have shared so much, and to whom I feel responsible. 3. Maybe I could search of the missing thing without dumping my partner and while we continue...

As I read no a swingers' board once, people are not "open minded," they are just "different minded." Thus, they may seem quite open on some issues, and surprisingly "closed" on others.

Just a piece of advice: if you are going to do something (with others), do it in a way that interferes the least with the day-to-day routing you and your mono partner have. If there are times when you are alone and she is busy - use these times. Don't make her feel like sitting alone and being...

Thank you for the thoughtful advice NYCindie :) I have been thinking about what to write here, but almost nothing would make sense, so I'd leave it as it is. Each thought you present of quite true, but when I think about the whole picture, something feels odd. In any way, I will hang on and...

UPDATE - any thoughts? So, the story continues as follows: We continued meeting at the hobby club and sometimes outside in relationship with the hobby (what I previously was calling "vanilla activity" - it is a plain non-sexual hobby). In the last few weeks we have been skipping the club most...

I am not sure if this will work for you, but it has worked for some. Develop your own interests and personal life to the point that you "need" time where your partner is away. Now, writing this down, it occurs to me that it may be more of a personality thing. Those who need their space and...

Thank you for all the new input. After reading NYCindie's post from a few days ago, it occurred to me that the woman I am interested in has a very rich and full life and values her freedom and independence. It would be very hard to make her consider becoming responsible about someone, as it is...

I have been reading this thread for the last few days. So much to learn, and so depressing to read. It reminded me of how grateful I must be for what I have and how fragile happiness can be! Carma and Bangel, I hope and pray that life will turn better for both of you in the near future. Thank...

Well, NYCindie, I did not think to answer her with the quote you wrote, but from her tone I gathered that it was more like "I suspect you are trying to date me and I am not interested." And one more thing: her "I am not sure if this has actually crossed your mind, but I want to make sure"...

An update (probably final) It is time for an update: After she did not show up twice, I called her last week. We had a nice short chat and made a plan to visit the club on what was then "the next Tuesday" which was yesterday. Yesterday we had a great time at the club, then walked to her car...

Think about a situation, in which one has three resources: money, time, and efforts. Some people have better money managing skills than others, and end up financially better off than peers with the same income. Similarly, there are people who "make time" by managing their time more...

No, I don't want to hurt her, but as I said, I will let her know once there is an indication of mutual romantic interest. In other words, in the moment I see that she is interested. She is at a very different place/stage in life and there are a few bridges to cross first. This is not like...

thank you Thank you NYCindie, I was hoping that someone as experienced as you would answer. I know that the stuff about the "vanilla club" sounds odd, but I don't want to name the activity because it is not that hard to connect the dots. What you suggest is quite reasonable, and what...

I’d like to hear the thoughts of more experienced poly folks about what I should do in my situation. I am hoping for an interesting discussion. Here is the problem: After figuring out that online dating borders on “lost cause” for me as a married guy in an open relationship, I stumbled...

It doesn't matter how one calls it. Just like in the rest of life - the subject matter gives meaning to the words, not the other way around.

The card lack the obvious "all of the above" box.

I agree with the face comment, I did not think about this when I wrote it (too late now). I put the middle paragraph because she wrote in her profile that she likes to shop for antiques in Manhattan. Does this change anything? If not, I need a letter-writing trainer.

I just got a reply! I just got a reply! Yeah! Below is what I wrote, followed by the answer. Hi [Redacted], Since I keep checking your profile every once in a while, maybe I should just send you a note. Your face reminds me about something but I am not sure what. I recently moved to the...