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I forgot to add that we've been watching the poly show on showtime and it has given us good fodder for discussions. Now we briefly talk about expectations, boundries, etc. before he goes out. We've also benefitted from seeing others in poly relationships and talking about what would work for us...

Day 22 It’s been a long couple of days. Piper and I went away for a night. We went to a swingers party. It’s not really my thing – at all, frankly. But he enjoys it and so when I find I can handle it, we go. Needless to say, it’s been like 2 years since we went last? Yeah, so I don’t find that...

Day 19 EN-ER-GY! Yes, that’s what I felt today…more energy. I basically told Piper that I didn’t think Colada was into the type of relationship he wants. We talked, he listened, he said he will talk to her. But either way, I felt better being able to express my feelings, make a change, and it...

Oh GM - I'm so sorry to hear things aren't looking up. It sounds like you are doing everything you can possibly do - kids, work, meet to discuss. I agree with you about the other woman and how horrible it is to try to break up a family. :( I'm sending a positive vibe your way tonight. I have no...

Day 17 I talked to Piper and told him the consensus of the comments about my email. He seemed thoughtful. He did agree to spend some time this weekend reviewing some of the tags that were recommended here. I figure that's good. I also told him today that I don't want to be involved with him...

Day 16 Thank you everyone for your insights and comments. You have made me think today. Phy - I think you are right on the mark. It always strikes me how much I enjoy (and need) my work - and I know it's because I feel like I have control over my space...but then I feel so stifled when I get...

Boogers - I was kinda hoping you'd say I am expecting too much, or worry over nothing, or something similar...because then I could work on me. I can't change others. I do think he'd like to make me happy...he just struggles with how to do it. He frquesntly tries really hard to do something only...

Nycindie - No, Piper has never really understood me - though he does try. I do think he's tired of trying but he hasnt ever totally given up. In the moment, his frustrations prevent him from being understanding and he struggles a lot with seeing situations from other people's points of view. He...

Day 15 Well, it's been an eventful couple of days so I just didn't have the energy to post. We ended our "vacation" with an ER visit with Pea (she is ok, thank goodness, but it was scary) followed by a straight 10 hour drive home with the kiddies and me alone. Needless to say, I was totally...

Day 12 Do you ever just want to kick yourself? Ugh, that’s how I felt today. I had it – really had it by about noon today. I was thinking – I’m done, I’m done, done, done, done, DONE! This girl has me in knots. She’s so anxious that apparently, she can’t even follow basic etiquette – e.g. If...

Day 11 Spoken like a true experimentalist, Dingedheart, you made my day! I do love a good, challenging question…I had some hulabaloo to talk about today but I think your question is so much better for a topic, so I’ve decided to address it instead. What does success look like? Failure? Do Pied...

Day 10 Ok, I followed my own advice – I breathed. It’s about all I did today, but I did relax some. I took two, yes, two bubble baths, had some wine, and just let things go a bit. Partly, as all women gloriously experience (ugh), my hormones are righting themselves right on time. So I was bound...

Thank you GreenMom - I just wanted to send you a quick thank you - your blog as helped me a lot. I've been reading your entries (and chanting, I am my own primary along with you) ;) I appreciate your candid comments and insights! It's giving me more to think about in my own life...

Day 8 Well, it’s day 9 and we’re several days into our trip. I can’t say it’s going well or that it has improved since yesterday. He worked, I worked a little and watched Pea, we managed to watch a movie – but not without tears and stress. We did talk some tonight – a little eye opening, I...

Day 8 Well, I’m afraid today was not as jolly as I would have liked. We’re now 2 days into our family vacation –but I can’t say it’s been relaxing even a tad. Child #2 is at sleep away camp, Child #1 is in day camp, Child #4 isn’t sleeping through the night (and is getting FOUR new teeth), and...

responses CielDuMatin - I hadn't even thought of the kids being in a position where one female would say something and the other would contradict it. While it should be an obvious concern, I guess I didn't even think about it because I'm clearly the primary parent for all my children and I...

Day 6 Today was a looonngg day driving so we had a fairly uninterrupted 8 hours to talk…and talk we did. We discussed rules, what’s working, what’s not, where to go from here. Probably the best thing we did was literally make a list of what would need to happen to make this work with Colada and...

Day 5 Day 5 So my self-imposed task for today was to think about how I want to feel in our relationship. I thought this was an easy question I was asking myself. However, as the night and next day progressed, I found the answer to be more complex than I originally expected. What I thought I...

quick answers The only ones old enough to notice are middle school aged. They are alseep when she's over, so I don't tell them anything actually. And since I have my own suite, we don't see each other so not yet meeting is not a huge issue.

Day 4 Goodness – I can’t believe it’s already been 4 days! Overall, today was good. Piper had lunch with Colada yesterday and today and went to her house last night too. No major tummy discomforts on my part, so that was nice. I also finally SLEPT last night. <sigh> That felt good! Not being...