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Okay, I may have to rethink this.

Time is limited Quality of time is what counts. It's all about love and choices. That ain't ever gonna change.

You can post anytime. I always consider your words and learn from them. Thanks for letting me see another side of this little world of ours.

It is indeed. Yes. I've seen this at all levels, where it becomes a question of is it poly, or am I just collecting a fan club, or on the darker side, a cult following? Many of the so-called poly/tantra experts I've met have shown no interest in the relationships formed, only in the growing...

I've been reading posts where folks I know keep bringing new partners into their lives, great connections, NRE, mutual interests, or just plain curiosity. I don't doubt the emotional honesty of these new relationships, but I do know the cost you will pay-- time. Time with those already in your...

I'll always love you, beautiful. Just a fact. I've gone back and read a great deal about what you've been going through, and know what it is to feel as you do. Trust. It's all about that one simple word. It exists or it doesn't. My ideal poly relationship is to always have that one person I can...

This cant't be and isn't about blame. Love is love. Rain needs time and space to heal, a small thing to grant another human being who's in a world of hurt. I'll be all right. After all, I have you folks to love me when I'm hurting. I'm a pretty lucky guy, I'd say.

Your're loved. end of message.

As it goes .After I moved in with Rain, I told myself I was rebuilding and growing. Neither proved true. What I was doing was hiding and running as fast as I could from a lifetime of pain. Relationships are a great place to hide in for a little while. But eventually you have to deal with what...

So it goes I've had two poly relationships. Both proved to be based on deception and hidden motives. Why? Why not just tell the truth? In the first one, my wife wanted to be unmarried. She set up her next partner before giving me the news about what was really going on-- divorce, not polyamory...

No job, no apartment This just gets so weird. My gf Rain, in the time of horror, fucked off to Hawaii with her kids and another man. I was living at her house at the time. She told me to be gone by the time she returned. I ended up moving back in with my ex-wife Tess. Because I was so...

Well that was fast! So here I am, single. Some shit just ain't ever gonna work out, and the sooner you move on, the happier you get. Me? I'm slow. God damn, but I seem to suck at relationships. I'm in a place where, other then being a good man, a great lay and having an odd sense of humor, I...

Whaaaaassup? Well, hello there. What's new? I missed you folks. My life is as odd as it's ever been, and now filled with more love fun and adventure then I would have thought. I'm living with my beloved, her husband, their two kids, and having the time of my life. I'm taking classes to...

Funny ol' world Well, the journey continues. I was fired from my job. I've given notice that I'll be moving out of my new apartment at the end of the month. I'll be moving in with my gf. I have no money. My credit cards are maxed. I have no idea what I'm going to do for a living. But I'm...

And our next contestant is-- monogamy Come on down! You're the next contestant in "Holy fuck, is my life weird!" Sorry, Dave, but it's true. I'm in a mono relationship, and loving every minute of it. So, do I have to give back the secret decoder ring and log book?

Risk it all I could play it safe. Go slow, take my time. But if I did that I would have missed what's happening right now. Opening up and dropping the acts, the masks, the pretense. Showing someone who I truly am isn't the risk, at all. The risk is missing my life by holding onto those...

A message from Rain "I love the people on your forum. They are like family. Your tribe. Wonderful, smart, intelligent people, willing to support, encourage and help someone they've never met." Some stories and advice resonated so deeply with me. They made me laugh, they made my heart hurt...

Is it always like this? When I finally surrendered, when I finally let Tess go, I found what I've searched for my entire life. And her name is Rain. She has read this story, and still loves me. My brain seeks reason and logic. My heart needs neither. It just knows. And I am content to just let...

Time to clean something up In past posts I've not spoken well of Tess. I did not speak from love. I spoke from fear, anger, childishness and spite. My marriage with Tess is ending because it's time for it to do so. End. At any moment, I could have chosen to see this, and accept it for what it...

My last day here has arrived I move to my own apartment tomorrow morning. I am quiet; I am sad right now, as I pack up the last of my things. So many memories, good ones of love, life and laughter. I'm going to miss this house, its presence and all it holds that is dear to me. 20 years of...