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Over the years, there has been much that I wish I could have given my wife-- a bigger house, nicer car, more money, a life of ease and comfort. But I haven't. But this? A chance to have a new love, a new intimate life experience, an adventure of a lifetime? Yes, that I can do. I love you, Tess...

Compersion and grief Not only am I learning a new way to live and love, I'm learning a new language. My brother in law (who's poly) just told me about this. I was discussing how I felt about his sister/my wife finally finding a paramour. (Dunno if that's the right word.) I'm happy for her...

Wow! Not 10 minutes ago my brother in law was telling me about this. (he's poly) I had to look compersion up as I had never heard of it before. I'm new to poly so I don't know much but this sounds good to me. Enjoy the ride. Freetime

Wow, what an awesome night. Tess's date and his wife came over tonight for dinner, and they were and are truly wonderful people, whom I shall refer to as Mike and Tilly. I fear that I may be the stumbling block in all of this for Tess and her budding romance with Mike. I can and do come across...

Well, my friend, I'm monogamous. T isn't. After 20 yrs of marriage, T came out and told me how she felt and what she wanted. You've read my story. It's a pretty good look at what the other side experiences when a partner says "I'm poly." I'm 3 months into this, and I still have no idea if I'll...

Thank you for the heads-up on this. I may be reading far too much into this, and will try not to assume anything is going to happen until, well....it does. Tess isn't, or at least hasn't identified herself as bi. But she is open to the idea. Love is love is love. Another area we may yet go...

Feast or Famine. Well here we are....in the last week here's what's happened. T reached out to someone in the poly community, who is now coming over on Saturday, for a get-to-know-you date, with his bisexual wife. Tess and I have discussed this. If they are a match, she may end up with a bf...

Hi folks, been awhile. I read these posts the day after they were posted, but have been very sick, and am just now getting better. Sorry for not replying sooner. M remains in our life for now, but as a casual friend only. Being somewhat self-absorbed, it never occurred to me that Tess might in...

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Staaaaaaaaaaaaaarting over Yep, it's true. M did not work out. I pretty much knew he wouldn't. He is way too self-centered and flaky. Nice guy, though. So here's the deal. How do I communicate with Tess about this? I knew he wasn't it the first time I met him. I have very very good instincts...

Assorted nonsense and other thoughts. Ethical Slut: hippies who want to fuck anyone and/or anything. Sex at Dawn: intellectual propaganda for people who want to fuck anyone and/or anything. Overall, lots of talk about reasons for wanting to have sex with others besides the person you're...

Thank you, TP. You've helped me to keep this real. You rock. Thank you. I'm still working, and probably always will be, on the emotional stuff that comes up. When I get overwhelmed, I come here and read how others are succeeding and making this work. Your life stories make a huge difference...

Wow. 36 days of this walk into the odd and unusual. Tess and I have been spending more time with M. My fears, jealousy, anger and uncertainty have all but vanished. Last night was odd for me. I picked up M from work and brought him back to our house. (M doesn't drive.) He and Tess actually...

I'm confused. I'm seriously considering going away for a month, maybe more, to let Tess do her thing without my baggage, issues, feelings, whatever getting in the way. I love Tess. We've connected at a deeper, truer emotional and spiritual level since this journey into polyamory started...

Really? Poly camp? Really? Really? I think my brain just melted. You folks humble me with your kindness. Thanks, Derby. I truly do wish we were out there right now as we go through this. Poly camp... Really? :cool:

One thing I do know for certain is not to make this out to be more then it is. Easier said than done, but probably the most important thing I'm going to post here for me to see. (Too late, really. But hey, it's the thought that counts.) I've gone through more shit, experienced more pain and...

I forget just how much poly changes things. You're absolutely right, Penny. M is coming over on Saturday, for guy bonding stuff. I'll let ya know how that goes. Yes, it would. You made me smile, TP. Thank you.

Forgotten details The date with M, that didn't go anywhere, but set this all in motion for me. On 3/24/11, I went and met with M for a massage. He is a massage therapist who has worked with folks with back injuries and chronic pain. Tess made the referral. Yes, he knew/knows who I am. Wow...

No worries on my side of the computer, Carma. You, Sundance and the others have been and continue to be my teachers in this journey called polyamory. Hello, SpiritGirl. I love you. I'm glad you're here. These are the people who have walked with me these short 20 days, and if I'm lucky, will...

Hi Jenagain, I'm right in there with Beodude and would like to share an experience with you that may or may not help. I'm so new to this and the board, I'm not sure I should even be offering advice, but I am and I hope it helps. T feels as you do when I get fearful and angry, and like you she...