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Hello and welcome. I too am knew to all of this, but I wanted to let you know that the people here have been awesome in there help and support. If you do as Redpepper suggested you'll find what you need to at least get you started. I did and it helped immensely. from there you can then start...

What a difference a good night's sleep makes. Tess went out with Mr M. They spent the evening talking, and had a great evening, but M doesn't want to go any further than just friends. Forgive me if this gets hard to read, but I'm still feeling wiped out right now. This week took a lot out of...

I've gone from acceptance to fear and back again about a dozen times tonight, not knowing what's going on. A good friend, the only one who knows about this, came over to help me not go out of my mind. He's left now and I'm feeling... all right. Not great, but not bad, either. I keep reminding...

I met a friend this morning and later my Mom for lunch, and in both cases I had a much deeper and much more honest time with them. It seems this journey into the truth is not only transforming my marriage, but my other relationships as well. I was more emotionally and spiritually present today...

Well here we go. Magdlyn Hahahahaha! Hell, that's not bad for an 18-yr old! Beodude, TruckerPete, Redpepper, thank you for sharing your experience. It's pretty awesome to have folks helping me out with this. So much is changing for me, how I see my relationship, myself and my wife. This...

Tess and I went out tonight to a social event where M was supposed to show up, but he never did. This is the second time he's been a no-show. It makes me wonder if this guy's right for the job, so to speak. He had also made plans last Thursday to get together with Tess, but bailed on her (see...

Tess and I had sex, great sex! Not unusual for us, really. But what is different is that its been 15 times since last Thursday, the day I first started posting here and the first day I admitted to being in over my head. No, I'm not bragging (okay maybe just a little bit), but I am startled at...

Wow. Thank you for this. Passionate kissing is the #1 foreplay/sex act I love. Don't get me wrong, it's all good stuff. But that act in and of itself drives me crazy. Since my wife started her poly journey and after this week our sex life has gone into overdrive. Great thread for a new guy like...

Robfire, thanks for sharing your experience, That's exactly my style of communication, and a style I'm putting away, hopefully for good. I've talked more in the last week about what's really going on with me/us/her than... well, I don't really know when. Odd. One of the first things the folks...

Hello Cat, Welcome. Nice to see another new person! The few folks I'm getting know here have been fantastic! I don't have anything else to add really, So welcome to the board, hope you find what you're looking for. FT

Trucker Pete, Carma and Beodude, thanks for the advice. Today was an odd day. I was experiencing low-level anxiety for most of it. But once I came home I mellowed out and right now am at complete peace with this new idea. What's that about? The tears are still a mystery to me, for the most...

late night creature that I am, I'm in Calgary Alberta, how about you? P.s thanks for the kindness in your post. it all helps. Clay

What the fuck? I was downstairs discussing what my wife really wanted, FWBs vs true polyamory, and I burst into tears! Me! I've just spent the last 10 minutes weeping like a small child, and I don't even know why. I haven't done this in... years? I thought I was doing so well. Now I just feel...

Meeting topics, anyone? ImaginaryIllusion, thanks for the clarification and encouragement. Sometimes I feel at peace with this life change, sometimes I don't. I like that you and the others speak your truth and ask me questions that really make me look at myself in this situation. I am...

Thanks, Carma. Any advice on meeting him? Guidelines, topics? To clear up some confusion I've caused here, the potential BF doesn't know he's a potential yet. My wife met him at an event, they hit it off, and have met a couple of times since at other events, where she realized she wanted to...

I'm so new to the poly lifestyle that I still have the new poly smell! (Okay, bad joke.) But I'm not new to being a human being. I can understand the wife's issue. She afraid. Afraid of loss. The best thing at this stage is to give her time, support her decision, show her you're on her side...

Wow... You folks ask tough questions. I'm glad you do though, as it makes me look at myself and what I believe in a completely different way, and at a much greater depth then I would have done otherwise. So, thank you. After considering much of what has been offered up here, I've come to the...

About 10 years ago, my wife was given some possibly life-altering news about her health. At that time, I panicked, gave up my career and stayed home with her while she built her business. I worked for her and her company. (Not really, but it sounds better then saying I just hung around hoping...

Well, this is different Day 2? 3? I sort of lost the timeline, it seems. In any event, the discussion continues. I have a question. I have no issues and/or feelings of fear, loss with the sexual side of things, but as soon as I start seeing this as another relationship, I start getting bent...

OK... So I did what you suggested. I went and talked to her at length about how I feel and what I thought this was all about-- dissatisfaction with me, her excitement about a younger man, etc. I told her, without censoring or pretending to like this idea, exactly how I felt and of my fear of...