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Thank you. I just can't help but to get mad and that makes me sad. Being there for my SO should be enough in and of itself. I should feel this "glow" that makes sacrificeing for my SO worth it. I don't feel that glow. I just feel hollow and empty and vaguely stupid. At least I have art. I...

At the moment, I'd have to say no. I don't think it has been worth it at all.

I'm sad, lonely, and poor right now. I'm sad that I have failed in finding a good strong circle of friends. I'm sad that I have failed in finding an OSO. I'm sad that I have failed in getting my needs met from my current SO. I'm sad that I am not mentally healthy enough to date crazy and it...

Blah. I'm sitting alone again in my apartment. I know I should be grateful that I'm not living under a bridge and have a little bit of money to get food and what not. But I'm not. I have been looking back on my relationship with my SO and realize that I would have been a lot happier if I...

Well, I think I did something to my lower back. Last week at a party at my SO's house, I stayed over without my ambien(bad idea 1), then went to sleep on a very, very bad bed(it has a metal rod right about where one's back would be) and then went to the gym and worked my legs the next day...

After perusing everyone's profiles, I guess it is only fair that I toss mine in. I'm WalkerBoh23. The pictures are a smidge out of date(except the X-Day pics) but other than that, it's all there.

Another thought occured to me... If neither of them answers you in a reasonable amount of time, that in and of itself may be an answer. Not a good answer or one that reflects well on them, but an answer.

Yeah. There is always a big difference between the "ideal situation" and a real live someone in your living room wearing PJs, eating fruit loops, and watching animal planet(not saying anyone on this thread wears PJs, eats fruit loops, or watches animal planet).

No, that's not odd at all. What you've been going through looks like something I call "death by a thousand hesitation cuts". You know K is going to leave. K knows K is going to leave. No matter how nice she is to you, you both know she is going to be leaving. After awhile it is more...

Another weekend. I hung out with my SO and her OSO Friday and Saturday. Saturday I went to my SO's sister's engagement party. It was(to me) a big family affair. The thing is that my SO is kinda sorta closeted. It is difficult because I don't know if I should be closeted or not when it comes...

I think I will do just that today. The big problem I have is that it tends to hit my lower back before it hits my abs. However, I am taking that as a sign that I need to do more back work(to add to the ab work and the pec work and the, you get the idea). Yeah. Guilty as charged. For me a...

Things are going pretty ok. Just got just under a 3% salary raise at work which will take effect Oct 1. Even though it is getting harder I'm still going to the gym at least twice a week. I'm only hurting 70%-80% of the time, although I found out that I am not doing my pecs and back as much as...

Ahh, now this is something I know a little bit about. :D In my experience this is one of those things in which moderation is the key. If you go into 100% "creeper mode"(as we say in New Jersey) then you can come off as desperate and that will end up in fail. However, if you spend all of...

Well, I am making some progress. I am now only hurting 70% to 80% of the time because of working out as opposed to the consistent 90% of the time. I've changed my work out so that I am spending an extra 20 minutes on the treadmill although it is sometimes hard to get the third weekly session...

Well, I question the relevance of the idea(at least from an outside point of view). Now matter how you love an infinite amount of people(romantic, platonic, whatever) you can only express that love in any sense towards a finite amount of people. So no matter how you feel about an infinite...

When I was in a poly household with three guys and one girl, we tried to do that. For us, we learned very quickly that the level of communication you are talking about was painfully tedious for us(I swear that on separate occasions all of us wanted to claw our own eyes out). Hours and hours of...

True. That's why I specified willingness to be involved, not actually being involved. A person can be fired up and 100% sold on the idea of being involved with the two people they love but can't for whatever reason. I would say that they are still poly because the desire is there. They just...

Touche. However, that doesn't negate my point. Just because someone loves more than one person at the same time doesn't mean that they are poly any more than thinking about painting makes someone a painter. Without the willingness to act on those feelings a person is someone who is...

I'm sorry. The reason I didn't is because I didn't want to be disrespectful and give the impression that I know what you mean better than you do. My apologies. Ahh. That makes more sense and I think it goes back to a difference in perspective. I think that the ability to love more than one...

I am sure that does make a practical difference but I'm not quite sure how. From my understanding poly is about loving more than one person in a romantic way. If you love that style of relationship then you are signing up for loving more than one person(or at least setting that as your goal)...