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I have had casual sex in the past and like it quite a bit. I personally (and there are definitely people who see it VERY differently), I have an odd relationship with sex overall. With very few exceptions, sex is something that I enjoy immensely, and at the same time it is something that...

Ok, this is honestly funny. So the festival. First, I realized that(unlike many people) I do not like "porn-like" public displays of affection(PDAs). Hand holding is ok. Hugging, kissing, sure. Nipple tweaking(complete with anime porn squealing sounds) and naked kissing with fondling...

Nre.. Pros: The world becomes rainbows and magic. It becomes easy to get things done. It ends someday. Cons: The world becomes rainbows and magic. It becomes easy to get things done. It ends someday. In other words, I think that NRE's benefits and downsides are pretty much the same. Being...

I really, really like giving the female equivalent of a BJ. I like doing it because I like giving someone more pleasure than they can handle, orgasm after orgasm until they literally flee the room or pass out. (Both have happened. I was thrilled.) I also like the feeling of competence and...

I don't think that someone's REALLY deep outlook on anything is anyone's business other than the person who holds that outlook. True, we won't be able to change things at the root, but in this case I think that the cure (policing someone's deepest thoughts, complete with mandatory painful...

Ok. Here's my thoughts. In a nutshell, they haven't changed. Leave. ***** The expanded "remix": Your love for her is hurting you AND is hurting her. Even if you are 100% wrong, the fact that your reality and her reality can differ that much means that you will NEVER be able to mesh...

Oh goodie. This is an easy one. I can even express it in one word. RUN! To elaborate. Run. Fly. Flee. You cannot help her here. Retreat. Head for the hills. Make yourself scarce. Sprint.

Aaand another update It's another Tuesday and another gym visit. I was able to go with my SO on Sunday which was awesome. She has fibromyalgia and I am always very impressed when she goes to the gym with me. I leave Friday morning to go to a festival which should be fun. I'm a little...

I can't say that I have the same reasons, but I do feel the same way. I like to keep my "people that I have sex with" and my "people that I think of as friends" separate. For me, it's a sort of drama tolerance. If I am having sex with someone, I have a different level of tolerance for drama...

I would actually argue against that point. I have NEVER had a pregnancy or STI scare with a treadmill. :p

That is exactly what I'm talking about. That is the risk that I'm referring to.

Money, status, emotional well being, even one's life depending on the circumstances, etc. Literally everything. Which requires a tremendous mindfulness, I've found. From my experience, putting in more than you are willing to loose isn't a single discrete action, like going all in during a...

Well, I think that part of what happens is something wrong with what the guys are doing(either they need some therapy, they have misconceptions about poly/life that makes it harder, etc.). I also think part of it is that in the rank and file of poly, there are just a lot more guys than...

Part 2 It's been a rough week. I'm going to a festival in two weeks and another one during the 4th of July and planning for that is taking a lot of my time. My gym visit on Tuesday was a bit too intense(my legs are still feeling burny as I type this), but hopefully it should be ok by tomorrow...

I guess what I was saying is that when someone dates, they run the risk of potentially loosing everything. If you can loose everything, why risk it when you already have everything you need? However, after reading the responses here and the posts in other threads, I get the impression that it...

Yeah, grok isn't something I'm a fan of either, mostly because in order for someone to really understand the word they have to read Stranger in a Strange Land. But frubble? Ugh. I tend to use that word in my circle when referring to unrealistic compersion expectations (i.e., if you find out...

To quote Our Lady of Quick Defintions, under the entry for compersion: This word, btw, brought me closer to becoming monogamous again than anything else. :p

Things I've learned. 1. Be very very careful whom you trust and get close to. 2. Even if you learn lesson #1, it is almost a certainty that you will get hurt, maybe even very badly. 3. Compersion is highly overrated and too much emphasis on it can make you crazy (i.e., "Why am I irritated...

I've noticed the same thing. I think (and this is only a hypothesis) that it has to do with the perception of poly as being deeply intertwined with sex (which is enough of a perception that I can think of at least one fairly popular podcast that has as its tagline, "It's not all about the sex.")...

Ok, this is only wedding appropriate if everyone has a finely developed sense of humor. "Millionare Girlfriend"- Jonathan Coulton http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Om63OYwvll0 I love this song. Hard. In the face. 100%