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Thank you. You just cured me of the entire day I spent with stupidity. Much appreciated.

For me, it means there is no physical relationship. It's massively important to me.

My therapist has a good story about her husband. She used to say, "Why do you love me?" and he would say, "Because I said so." I get that, now that I'm with FBF. None of the reasons are the things. I just do.

For what is worth, I didn't think her response was all that prickly and defensive. I was hoping she could take the answers in the spirit that they were offered (and asked for). But that response sounds to me like a little kid who says, 'HAY GUYZ, look at this cool new shiny I know how to do?'...

In any classification (of anything), one must have enough categories to account for most of the differences, but not so many categories that the classifications become useless. Meyers Briggs has 16, which is four more than basic astrology, but certainly small enough to handle. I was delighted...

poly-correct: "Because I have more love to give than one person can take." smart-ass: "Because I'm hard to please, I need to two to try harder."

So funny. I had to read everything above me before I got it. I was going to go with this doesn't happen to me much. I get other things, like asking my mom for a ride to the doctor because I have a fever and don't feel safe to drive. She says, 'oh, I can't, I have lunch date with my friends.'...

I second professional help, but I want to add a little about why. This seriously sounds like there could be something off with his brain chemistry. The longer he obsesses, and thinks the same thoughts, the more embedded the thoughts and the neurons become. The sooner you get help, the better...

Hi! BoringGuy said this and it got me thinking. (didn't want to hijack the other thread) I have been thinking on this. FBF and I don't deeply share many interests. We're generally interested in lots of things. He's very into gaming, and video in particular; and science, and the desert...

'both primary partners' implies a high degree of monogamous, couple-centric, not-necessarily-poly thinking. Many folks who are poly do not have or want a 'primary' partner. If your goal is a triad, then you won't be a primary 'couple' anymore. Which is fine of course, I just recommend you...

I first read Stranger In A Strange Land when I was very young. I think, now, that my parents, at least my dad, viewed it as a bit of primer for how life should be. [I recently found out about their attempt at a triad/vee/whatever. Mind-blowing. I knew the woman when I was a child, I had no...

Hi Shamus, This article might help explain it: http://davidlnoble.com/so-somebody-called-you-a-unicorn-hunter/

I will also add, I recommend that if you're starting an adventure, to share it with your partner, if they have an interest. Or at least let them know, 'hey, I'm learning about this new thing. It really interests me.' I see a lot of folks come in to polyamory.com and they've read everything...

You're in the right place! Questioning is a perfectly great reason to be here. You might start with a very gentle, generic conversation with your boyfriend, to find out what he knows and/or thinks about openness or polyamory in general. Some folks have never heard of it, and some folks have...

me? I couldn't do it that way. I'd spend a weekend calling everyone. But you know your people better than we do. I allowed myself to listen to my gay friends when I came out as queer to my parents. I *knew* my parents didn't care, but after listening to so many horror stories, I allowed...

There's no 'you must be this tall' sign for admittance to the interwebz. :P

Be interested in him, focus on finding out who he is, what he's like, what he does with his life (inner life and outer life), what his stories are. If you focus on those kinds of things, you won't be focused on less useful stuff like "What does he think of me?" Then try to have fun! I assume...

I'm not sure what you mean by 'can't do any group related activities the first day.' ?? Can you elaborate? I don't have social anxiety, but I do have a physical condition that keeps from doing a regular thing (like every week or every month). I really like meetup for finding stuff to do. I...

I get the sense from what was written that recognizing it was invalid was enough to overcome it. I have much experience with this in my life. When I have had the opportunity to see something is NOT actually the One and Only Valid Truth, it simply disappears as an issue for me. Glad you...

Didn't realize it had been so long since I've written here. This illness has kicked my ass. I read a forum for aspies, giving and requesting advice for relationships - one to another and NTs with aspies. It was quite inspiring. (and yes, that name for them was in the name of the forum) I...