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I was so thrilled to discover, my senior year in high school, that girls were even an option. :) That's not really late in life, but I had been boy-crazy since about 7 years of age. so it was a bit of a surprise. For me, dating someone new always turns me into an awkward teenager again. That's...

That blissful moment, when he has splayed open my body, and my very soul as far as they can go. He wants nothing, he needs nothing, he is just absolutely *there*. I tolerate it as long as I can, try to just take it in. Then I feel really small and vulnerable, and bury myself as far into him...

You're a teacher in your soul, aren't'cha?

Hey polypenguin, Yah, friend may not *know* she's crossing a line unless you tell her. In her world, that may be what friends do, is share showing of toys. I had a roommate once, she was so excited when she got her new whip and wanted to show us all. She wanted to show how lovely, and I...

*busting up laughing, envisioning nycindie as the lion in wizard of oz*

Hi! I've found that my only certainty in life is that things change. :) Glad you're back. I'm also working on that deciding thing.

Oh, lolalondon, I'm so sorry you had to come to this painful conclusion. I'm glad you have been able to understand your needs and boundaries, and I'm glad you were able to communicate them to him. You have absolutely not been abusive. You are a better woman than I, to not be offended by...

Hi Paulyamoros, welcome. I feel sad to read this, and wanted to share why. My father has felt this way most of his life, I don't think he had words for it when he was very young; but he's in his 70s now, and I think he still feels the same way. Even though he's had two marriages, the first to...

I might phrase it with a snuggle and differently-ish: Sweetie, I know how i feel when you do such loving actions; and sometimes, I'd really love to hear the words from you. Would you be open to telling me in words?

nycindie, it made sense to me.... :)

I don't organize our local group, but I participate. :) It's organized through meetup, but originally it was a mailing list. I found it through the poly events all over link that redpepper has in her sig line. It's also a huge, secret facebook group. The meetup is a once a month meeting a...

Thanks, GG, IP, opalescent... Much appreciation :D My ex-boss's wife (who is also a former co-worker) invited me to lunch today. I suspect mostly because I told her about the breakup. Terribly interesting to me, in my head. She's very christian. For that, and work, I haven't divulged my...

Thanks, nycindie. I'm so sorry for your loss today. That's a long time to have a furry companion. I tell people at work (since he was the nominal bf): Do I look I thinner? ....I've lost about 350 pounds of unsightly useless boyfriend. ;)

Well. All that enthusiasm. *sigh* I broke up with CBF on New Year's Day. He spent all day NYE sexting some girl from an online game he's in. I said something snotty (I hoped it was snotty) and he's like 'oh yah, that's Gertrude' (obv not her real name) as if that was supposed to make it...

Last year, my vee was very new at Valentine's Day. I mailed them both cards (because that's what I do) ~ one lives a few hours away and the other lives next door. My men love each other very much, and would never consider being in a bed together. Unless maybe they were camping and were both...

Hi! Apologies, I've just arrived in this thread, and have only read this post, but wanted to reply specifically to this. I, myself, don't believe this is true. I don't "need" a relationship. I don't need many relationships. Well, apart from humans needing other humans, and all that. I'm quite...

Actually, one of my superpowers is translation. I have an amazing ability to perceive, when two people aren't able to communicate, how to re-phrase so they can understand each other. I can see them talking, and see that they aren't understanding, and I can take one person's words, and...

I had to sit with this quite awhile to respond. I am so not low verbal. I have, as I've aged, become more careful to choose my words. Currently, at work, I have an employee who pretty much suffers from verbal diarrhea. She cannot stop. I have tried saying, 'yes, you told me blahdyblah' and...

Hi GoddessofEden, Welcome :) I love this place and have learned much, and gained much, from being here. I hope you find value as well. Lots of reading, lots of questions, lots of discussion. cheers, NR

I'm beginning to think that some of that is also an age thing. I think the current younger generation (whatever one may call it) is more inclined to be group/family/tribe/less-individually oriented, and poly is a natural expression/consequence of that. Not to diss all the aging hippies that...