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Having feelings doesn't mean you're not cut out for poly. :) Everyone has feelings. Often the 'most' poly people, definitely the most experienced poly people still get jealous feelings or upset feelings. We are human beings, we have feelings. It's what you think you need to do about...

Hi, Which of those indicates his effort to be with you? I'm a little confused. Also three months since previous post. 'Great efforts', to me, would have come sooner. Maybe you could be friends with benefits? Really good friends, who care about each other, clearly. If you look at it that...

oh Dagferi, I'm so sorry. Surgery is often icky. Sounds like you're having a good recovery. I'm stressed. The job I'm doing (in addition to my own) has been advertised. I'm getting good counsel to apply, but I'm not certain I want it. Not crazy about my boss. He's okay, and likely better...

S/he that can have patience can have what he will. ~ Benjamin Franklin lol Sorry to hear you're sick :P that sucks for me, I have discovered that there is only more uncertainty, and I have spent time building my capacity to live with it. This has resulted in more ease and comfort (for me)...

I could be wrong, but I think when TT said this: I think she was directly referring to this (emphasis mine): (two is my max ability to quote!) I think I might have referred indirectly to this, but if I didn't, I often do. When I welcome people to any of my fb groups for people with my...

I outed myself to most of my closest family as soon as I *knew*. I'm very close to many of them. They all knew both my men, as I had previously been with each of them mono. But when I tell, it's like i have the coolest toy in world: 'I've got TWO boyfriends!' 'Yes, they both know' 'Yes...

I have learned that it is almost never about me, so I have changed my language (because I still think that first) to: 'Whatcha thinkin' 'bout, darling?' Which is more likely to get me more information.

Like nycindie, I've had better luck in real life. Almost always, it's been meeting someone through people I already know. However, FBF, I met at a mensa gathering (and CBF I met through FBF). But I'm guessing that nycindie and I are a fair bit older than you, and we learned how to date in a...

respectful virtual hugs offered :) I know what you mean. I didn't remember my childhood until I was 28ish. And when I remembered what I remembered, it felt a lot like everything I had ever believed or known was turned inside out and upside down and backwards. I talked to anyone who would sit...

I had the great pleasure of getting to see her amazing-fucking-self in SF for my birthday two months ago. and it just gets better: http://www.out.com/entertainment/music/2012/09/20/amanda-palmer-neil-gaiman-open-relationship

Tell women that within the first three dates. You'll weed out many that way. I was with my hunny for awhile when he first said that to me, and that's when I knew it wasn't going to work. I totally get why he said it (by the way, 'aspie-powered' was awesome!). I'm glad I found a way for it to...

I do understand the resistance to labels, really I do. However, creating terms to talk about stuff really helps one communicate with others. I feel sad when I read stuff like this. I have heard similar stories of other places. My local community is so different and so lovely. My local poly...

Thank you, dirtclustit, for that. It was beautiful and it spoke to me. :)

I had a lover (maybe more than) who used to say, 'doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home.' Me, I HATED that. A huge component of the whole shebang for me, is being wanted. For me. Most of the pissed off that I feel, I feel when I think my boys are ignoring...

Any update? I'm dying to know how it went... :D

That's a tough one. First, welcome to polyamory.com I don't think anyone has any words that can make it all better, I'm so sorry. All I have for you is to read, read, read, and give yourself time. Is she going away in a week? Or do you have some time to process this? What have you read...

I have a long history with 'forgiveness' and lack thereof. I had quite a few horrific things happen in my childhood. I was very fortunate to have an experience with one person who perpetrated some of the horror. He was in town, and asked to have dinner with me. I had made up my mind that...

What do you do? Find another partner. Me, I'm so done with people who say 'okay' but mean 'no way.' So done.

I'm a bit confused. You said you opened up, but you haven't said if you are seeing other people also. There are tons of stories on these very boards of men who are monogamous to women who are non-monogamous. It is entirely possible to do that; however, it does sound as if you are unhappy...

There's a reason I like you. :D