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Actually, CattivaGattina, the gal who wrote it has lupus; but I found it when my diagnosis was fibromyalgia, and it was very popular in fibro circles. My base dx is Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, hypermobility type. The pain is very similar to fibro, and I have the added joys of dislocating joints...

Nope, that's not an overshare at all. I always knew that if I had children, no one in my family would have access to them for that very reason. I have a friend who I put out of my life because it became clear that she could not reason out stuff that was potentially dangerous without 'trying'...

My situation is a little different, I'm the hinge of a vee, but we're very close to an emotional triad. I feel very jealous when they hang out together, whether it's virtual or in real life. One lives around the corner from me, and the other is a bit less than three hours drive away. They...

Well, grrlfren, I think you need to get all dolled up for your next date.!

I was gonna say what GalaGirl already said so brilliantly. :D However, I know that it is difficult to do what seems like choosing between a beloved parent or sibling and a boyfriend. We DO teach people how to treat us. I don't think that you need a final ultimatum. I think you could do it...

I have changed all three of my names (first middle last), twice. It's quite easy to look up the rules in your state, but generally your name can be almost anything you want it to be. In my state, you can change by 'usage.' You merely have to tell anyone who could possibly care what the new...

I am feeling compelled to add that it was entirely out of line to ask your teenage son if they were having sex. As a child who was subjected to her parents' sex lives in way more detail than any child should ever be, I speak to you from experience when I say this is creepy and damaging.

lol! Love it. :)

CBF told me, several years before our actual vee, that Lips of an Angel made him think of me. I heard it and got very pissed off. :) I was all wth? He said, it was when I was still with FBF, and he liked me. He wanted to be a good friend to FBF (hard to be faithful), and he wanted me...

There's a thread around here somewhere about taking a vacation as three. Maybe do a search for 'vacation.' and have fun!

Hiya fairydust, and welcome Somewhere around here there is a glossary. If your two men are going to be sexual partners, that's a triad. If it's only them having sex with you, that's a vee. If one of them got another partner, that would be an N. Oh, it complicates exponentially! :D It's not...

I prefer dismantling triggers, when I can. Hypnosis is an incredible tool for that. Not the stage hypnosis you're prone to see in your town. Real, therapeutic, one-on-one hypnosis, with an experienced, well-trained person. Personally, I've enjoyed lots of hypnosis on CDs, and now, much is...

Welcome to the forum, roots. :) I am always impressed at the sheer bravery of the spouses who come here second. (one joins, posts, gets recommend to invite their spouse, spouse joins ~ it's awesome) That's a damn good start. I admire your desire to keep exploring. Persistence is good...

Welcome to the forum, Morgan. Sounds like a perfectly hard start, into poly. I find it incredibly generous of you to attempt to work with it. You might want to think about wearing condoms yourself; I hate to say it, but if she's already lied, why wouldn't she lie about condoms. [also, what...

This prompted me to respond as I have similar history/issues. Is she willing to understand why others' boundaries are important, now? I have been no end of annoyed with people in my life who refuse to believe me when I say stuff. 'This hurts.' 'oh that couldn't possibly hurt, i'm not doing...

You might want to consider having her not take the bus on Friday, and clearing this up on the phone or skype or what have you. You have a right to have what you want. You have every right to feel what you feel. There is no need for you to feel badly about not knowing what you didn't know...

Just a word from me about patience. FBF became my boyfriend nine years ago (all very traditional, met through a social group, we were mono). He hired CBF to work for him, and they became fast friends, and the three of us became great friends. When I broke up with FBF, I started seeing CBF...

I find no small irony that kdt's 666th post is in a thread started by someone called Balthazar. Kevin, I love how you're the welcome wagon. :) Balthazar, that's a lovely introduction. I'm glad you're here, and I suspect you'll find no end of possibilities to learning in these forums.

How about washing the sheets? Does it stain? One of my loves enjoys whipped cream, and we didn't really prep well. Had to throw out my pillows after that one. There are probably still upside down handprints coming through the paint in that apartment....

nycindie, they sell them from walmart online. I'm sure you could find them from some more worthy retailer, but I saw the Skyn ones 12count for $5.92.