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AliS, I haven't been doing very well. We have certainly had our good times, but I've caused a bit of drama for us also. I was dishonest and did not disclose some very important things about my sexual history. That was an earlier mistake. A more recent mistake is that I broke boundaries and...

I've been thinking about this issue too. I'm reading the book Radical Honesty right now, and the author recommends communicating your feelings every time you feel a strong emotion. In my situation I often feel insecure. If I talked about it every time, I'd sound like a very negative and weak...

I have been having trouble with insecurity. Sometimes I think that I still feel compersion, even though I feel insecure. Maybe the two can over lap. I'm not sure. 9 out of 10 times that the woman that I'm dating has sex with her other boyfriend, I feel compersion. I learned compersion...

I'm a "poly addition" also. I'm dating a married woman that has two bfs, me and one other man. AliS, you are not alone.

I've been struggling with insecurity for months now. I've improved a little, but I'm still not out of the woods. I not only met my gf's other bf, Baron, and her husband, Aaron, but I moved into Baron's house and began to rent a room. At first, I wasn't intimidated by him. But when I got to...

Indigomontoya, thanks for your input. You are correct that I have been hard-headed, and that people have given me good advice on this thread. I have continued to be insecure. I have acted inappropriately, and now I'm on thin ice with her, but still in the relationship as of this very day/time...

Not by a long shot. I was just admitting that acne scars are one of the last things that I can stack on top, if I'm already feeling down. I'm doing much better confidence-wise. I'm not where I need to be, but I have improved. I also see more truths when I read the replies that are posted. I...

Thanks Tonberry! I enjoyed all of your reply, but these two points stood out to me. I also have acne scars, and it also bothers me. It bothers me less now, but I still think about it when I'm feeling very down about my looks. I remember concerns about my stature and acne scars only on days...

I talked with him about the possibility of a tertiary relationship between us that would be less romantic than the relationships that he and I each have with her. I told him that it seemed like he was interested, but just not right now, and I wondered if I was "projecting" a bit by saying that...

It is painful to be less in the areas of sex and entertainment. Sure, I'll just go pick myself up a primary. :rolleyes: It's not that easy, especially being poly. Besides, having a primary of my own won't solve my sexual issues. Redpepper, I have to give you credit for not denying that one...

Months have passed. I had at least six more bouts of insecurity, but each one was smaller than the previous one. I'm not where I used to be, regarding insecurity, but I'm still feeling pain. I thought about starting a new thread, but instead I decided that I would just update this one. She...

I did back in 2007. He asked me question about how neat I kept things, and how organized I needed things to be. He didn't diagnose me with OCD.

From 2002 to 2009, I was active on swinger's forums, and also met couples from personal ad sites. There are some bisexual men on those sites. A small minority list themselves as bisexual. Then a larger percentage list themselves as straight, but they are bi. (My guess is that between 25% to 33%...

I'm in a relationship with a married woman. I am one of her three partners. I live with her other boyfriend, Baron, while she lives nearby with her husband, Aaron. I feel no jealousy at all when she is with Aaron, which is great, because she is with him more than she is with either of us...

It's possible, but... I'm a guy in a relationship with a married woman. Counting her husband, Aaron, I'm one of her three male partners. All of her partners, including me, are poly. I live with her other boyfriend, Baron. He is an impressive guy. He isn't totally straight, but prefers women. My...

I can see how what I'm doing could be considered over-thinking, but I can also see how things would have gone better had I made different choices. I think that it is common to look back and see that choice B may have been better than choice A. How do I keep my feelings stable while still being...

Feelings, a Date, and Anxiety. I would dearly love for her to feel that way about my situation. I hope that is things turn out that way. We had a date night together this past Thursday night. I took her out for barbecue, and to spend the night on a ranch in an old house after watching the...

He is correct. I told her that I had been feeling insecure. She really is an amazing woman. The problem is, I feel like I lowered my value as a partner by being insecure. I wanted to become a confident partner. Since that urge surfaced, I've realized that I need to become a confident person...

I am working on becoming confident for myself also. I'm just so relieved that I didn't phrase things like a needy guy might phrase things. Two days have passed, and I'm still feeling good. I'm relieved.

Backsliding Wow, "backsliding" is a wonderful word to use to explain what has been happening to me. I was confident for short periods of time, and then I would slip. Another update: we had a wonderful date last night. I was able to remain confident throughout. I even phrased things the way a...