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She doesn't do anything to make me feel insecure. It is from within me. If she and I were monogamous, I would have had the same insecurities. She actually has a PhD in psychology. Nevertheless, she isn't my therapist. She is my lover. I have resolved the specific insecurities that troubled...

You are right. I am very concerned with how she sees me. Should I lay it all out and have another talk with her? Update: She just came over. Her other boyfriend and I are roommates, as I've mentioned before. I was able to have a 10-minute talk with her. I opened up. We have a date...

Hello, lovely poly people! I posted a thread here 6 weeks ago about comparing myself to one of my metamours. Fortunately, I've began to like myself more since then, so I no longer feel inferior to him. Monday morning, I admitted that I was feeling very insecure, because I thought that I said...

Hang in there! I am struggling with insecurity also. I posted a thread here about 6 weeks ago. Since then, I became a bit more confident (not because of posting, though). I really was on a roll last week, then I flopped this Monday morning and became very insecure. This time I told her about...

I'm in a relationship with a married woman. Her other boyfriend Baron and I live in the same house. She lives 3 miles away from us with her husband, Aaron. In the month of March, I went on 4 dates with her. On one of those dates, Aaron and I were both with her. Looking back over the month, I...

What positions are better for more width?

Some women do angle their hips in such a way, or have pelvises/legs shaped a certain way, that we feel like we can go deeper with them. It may not be true, but it feels like it at the time.

A Deep Subject Here's a long reply. I hope that most of you will find it entertaining, at the very least. I would like to open people's minds to other perspectives. I really appreciate that the ladies have been honest and admitted that different-sized penises do feel different. I also want to...

I sure wish my girlfriend would be open and share that information with me! (I'm somewhat bi, and I like large penises. too) Her silence about his big cock is tougher to deal with. All I know is that it is big. Wise words here. I'm trying to do this myself. As for vaginas, I do have a...

I stayed up all night on an Internet binge. I feel fried.

I'm the last member that they would recommend for giving advice about insecurities, regardless, here's what I have to say about this issue. I'd be happy that she expresses her enthusiasm rather than hide it. That would be really important to me. I'd also enjoy every second of watching them have...

I did have a one-hour counselling session with a counselor (M.A. degree) who is poly. It felt good to talk to him and express my feelings. It also felt good to do it because I was taking action. None of my core beliefs have changed, though. I continue to fake it till I make it. Interactions...

I feel happiest and most in sync with myself when I get things done, like running errands, exercising, and organizing my belongings. I feel happiest when I make progress and have completed something. I have trouble completing things, so when I do it makes me happy. 1. Lately, when I'm alone...

After replying here this morning, I left to go to work. On the way, I decided to go to a poly-friendly counselling center. I talked to a counselor for 30 minutes, and scheduled a 1 hr session for Wednesday night. The counselor has been knowing the people in my circle longer than I have. I didn't...

I haven't literally counted. I just wanted to put things in perspective. Using "8 out of 10" as an example would have worked just as well.

Women find certain things to be attractive. I think that my feelings are justifiable. Have you ever had a metamour that exceeded you in 7 out of 10 ways?

YGirl, thanks for replying again. Ah, that oh so valuable sense of humor. I fall short in that area. That frustrates me. Really, can I change my personality? When I think that I'll have to change my personality in order to be more attractive I feel frustrated. I want to rebel. You...

Negative. She likes Baron's penis quite a bit, quite possibly more than mine, but I wouldn't ask for such a comparison. That would be outrageous. She gets off by rubbing herself while something is in her. Having intercourse is the most intimate way for her to do that, I think. Redpepper...

In most different situations, I'm still inferior. So, I'm slightly more physically fit, and she and I have two outdoor hobbies that he doesn't have an interest in. That's it. I've been more romantic. She's complimented me on that, but I've worn out that avenue for now. Things have reached a...

UPDATE: my relationship with her is going well. We are closer in our relationship now than we were 3 weeks ago. Intimacy and closeness between us has progressed in a positive direction. Nevertheless, I still feel inferior in those same ways. I do feel less ashamed about having a lowly job, but...