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It's been a while since I've been here. After seeing the light on the jerk that "introduced" me to the "lifestyle", I laid low for a while to take some time for myself. During that time, I met a very nice guy. He's the polar opposite of the bad boy I dated before, but get this... I am bored...

I finally saw the light, and ended the massacre that I tried to convince myself was a "poly" relationship. Things just became WAY too complicated. The last straw was when one of the other women (the one I was actually close to) accused me of trying to sabotage the relationship. I do think that...

Sometimes I just don't think I'm cut out for any relationship... at all. So this was the big weekend with my BF and GF, and it hasn't gone badly... for them, but I am in emotional hell, and I think it's all self inflicted. I thought this would be the weekend that my GF and I tell our BF how we...

...of comparing myself to the other women. Now that we have eliminated DADT, I've found myself highlighting all the good things about the other women and not feeling very good about myself. I'm thinking... "He's with me because...." Is this common or am I just being a baby (again)?

...and I don't know what to do with it!!! OK.... so after my irrational last outburst with my BF (I think I may be comfortable calling him that--that's what he called himself), we went back to the drawing board and created new boundaries and started from scratch. We're all about disclosure now...

Ok.. I AM SO PISSED OFF RIGHT NOW!!!!! ...so I think I have done a relatively good job with dealing with this whole Poly lifestyle. I have even recovered from being put into some not-so-pleasing situations with the guy I am involved with. I have been aware the entire time that we have been...

So I entered my first polyamory (what I refer to as honest) relationship at the end of April, and besides a few bumps in the road, it has been relatively fulfilling and I have been pretty happy. ...until recently. The one thing I had always found refreshing about the relationship was the...

So it's been a while since I posted, and a lot of good things have happened since I last posted. I am still with my guy and it turns out he's not quite as much of a jerk as I thought he was. I just had to learn how to set boundaries, speak up and communicate. Since I have been doing that...

So you guys know the...saga of me, my intro to poly, and my new guy's insistence that I get involved in group sex. I've really been thinking, and the closer our next meeting gets, the more apprehensive I get. I just think it's going to be WAY TOO MUCH for me. I already know that I can't watch...

Well for those that have been keeping up... it appears that my "vibes" about the OSO were more accurate than I thought... so much so that she is no longer in the picture (shocking development). I didn't ask for too many specific details, but our guy felt like he had been "deceived" and knew it...

This is of course a spin off from another post, but I have been thinking about something for a while regarding my guy's OSO... Here's the deal... I am the "baby" of the bunch. At least 10 years younger than the other two involved in the "relationship" (she is actually older than he is). This...

I have been trying to wrap myself around this whole polyamory thing for a couple of months, and for the most part, I have been doing well. Outside of the "spontaneous" threesome episode with my guy's OSO (and the subsequent lessons learned), things have been going... OK. I wanted to get some...

Being so new to this makes it a little too easy to highlight the challenges, but I wanted to take some time to focus on the good things about the lifestyle and get some positive energy going. So here's what I like about polyamory: 1) Total honesty - This is the first time I have been able to...

and I feel a lot better. I laid out the boundaries I discussed in the Meltdown thread, and he was really patient and attentive. One thing he assured me is that he isn't going anywhere which is my biggest fear. He understands that both women involved are new to this, and since I am the "baby"...

So, not only am I new to the lifestyle, I am having a REALLY hard time finding organic community. This forum has been a tremendous help, but I think I need to meet other REAL LIVE people who can be of a resource to me. Here's my challenge... I live in the deep south, where Bible toting is a...

I will try to keep this short, but I wanted to provide some background... After numerous failed attempts at monogamous relationships, I decided to just take care of myself for a while and not date anyone. Along comes the most wonderful man I have ever met, Dion. He is attentive, sweet, kind...