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It's been a while since I've been here. After seeing the light on the jerk that "introduced" me to the "lifestyle", I laid low for a while to take some time for myself. During that time, I met a very nice guy. He's the polar opposite of the bad boy I dated before, but get this... I am bored...

Baby bro survived and suffered no head trauma (thankfully). He broke his pelvis and three bones in his back, but the doctor said with physical therapy he will be able to walk again. Remember that magical baby's laughter I mentioned? Well, hearing that made my brother sit upright today!! It...

Thanks so much to all of you for your support! It has been hard for me, even harder because the night I decided to break things off with both, my baby brother was hit by a car. :cry: So, not only did I have to deal with that, but I had to deal with my Southern, religious family and their...

I finally saw the light, and ended the massacre that I tried to convince myself was a "poly" relationship. Things just became WAY too complicated. The last straw was when one of the other women (the one I was actually close to) accused me of trying to sabotage the relationship. I do think that...

Sometimes I just don't think I'm cut out for any relationship... at all. So this was the big weekend with my BF and GF, and it hasn't gone badly... for them, but I am in emotional hell, and I think it's all self inflicted. I thought this would be the weekend that my GF and I tell our BF how we...

...of comparing myself to the other women. Now that we have eliminated DADT, I've found myself highlighting all the good things about the other women and not feeling very good about myself. I'm thinking... "He's with me because...." Is this common or am I just being a baby (again)?

...and I don't know what to do with it!!! OK.... so after my irrational last outburst with my BF (I think I may be comfortable calling him that--that's what he called himself), we went back to the drawing board and created new boundaries and started from scratch. We're all about disclosure now...

You are absolutlely right. The thing is... he's been more than willing to disclose everything, I was just afraid to ask. During our conversation stemming from this outburst, I told him I didn't think I had the right to ask what he was doing (for fear that it made me appear to not be able to...

Secretly.... well.... not exactly. He is aware that we talk but we don't think he's aware of how close we really are. However, it appears that he and OUR girlfriend recently had a talk and he may be more open to us (the GF and I) being closer. I told him how much I care about her and I...

As for safe sex practices, we ALWAYS use protection and we have agreed to share STD test panels (the full 10 panel expensive one). We actually went to get tested together... In this most recent case where I went off the deep end, this woman isn't even a factor. She's a coworker. I still have...

So maybe I do have it wrong. I'm experiencing feelings, but I don't seriously think he's where I am. As for DADT, I really don't think I can handle knowing about his other sexual encounters (I am assuming he has them). He has alluded to being involved in some other sexual situations with...

How can you "cheat" in a poly relationship? Can you please define polyfuckery?

Sorry About My Meltdown! My apologies for irrationally lashing out at certain posters. Sometimes my emotions get the best of me. I still don't get a lot of this polyamory stuff. Maybe it is fucking around with permission, but at least I'm not being lied to. In my past relationships (all...

Sometimes my guy asks for my input on projects he is working on (we both write) and he just adds me to the list of coworkers whose opinions he values. Other than that, I have no idea why she was reaching out to me. Of course, all of this could have been avoided by me simply inquiring about her...

Saying "toy" was my ever-so-nice attempt at sarcasm. Sorry Yanks, I'm not as good at it as others!!! I was just saying that because I was angry.

UPDATE: Total Over Reaction ...so after reading some of the advice, I decided to call my guy and talk to him (ignoring his call was rather juvenille). I told him (calmly) I was upset about an email I received from ____ (said her name) and began a rant about me not needing to know about his...

Because I was being petty. Sometimes it's hard for me to acknowledge that I'm sharing. I take comfort in out of sight, out of mind, and her contacting me made her REAL. You're absolutely right. I am WAY over-reacting on this one.

Actiually I don't dismiss anything. I take advice not ridicule which is something you are notorious for. Everyone isn't as strong or as hardcore as you and though I've tried to dismiss your repeated harsh responses as sound advice (because there is often good advice in there), you fail to...

You're absolutely right. Even a couple of hours has calmed me down tremendously. I am being quite petty. Yes, when I saw the new name pop up on the email I let my immature curiosity get the best of me and did a little detective work, but I still feel her reaching out to me was out of line...

Ok.. I AM SO PISSED OFF RIGHT NOW!!!!! ...so I think I have done a relatively good job with dealing with this whole Poly lifestyle. I have even recovered from being put into some not-so-pleasing situations with the guy I am involved with. I have been aware the entire time that we have been...