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Just personally, I could never date someone who my husband could not see as being part of our family. I am new to this. I know I've only had the one girlfriend. But if Nils did not want her as part of our family, long term, I wouldn't be dating her. That is just how I feel. I agree it is more...

I can see where you're coming from... sort of! My husband Nils seems to be where you are, as I have found a new love in a wonderful woman (Katja), who just happened to end up at our doorstep (long story). Nils tells me all the time he is not jealous of what she and I have. He just doesn't want...

Thanks for the advice of stepping back a little (mentally) and just observing what is around me, between Nils and Katja. Nils has told me many times in the last 2 weeks that the biggest issue in regards to any of our connections (the three of us, me and him, me and her, her and him) is my...

Do any of you have this type of situation? My girlfriend Katja deeply loves me. (She lives with us.) My husband Nils deeply loves me. Katja wants to be close to Nils and really wants to be friends with him. Nils says he loves her heart and soul, and that she is a good friend who could become...

Thanks Thank you all for the wonderful advice! I was thinking that Katja was "missing out" because she didn't want to hurt my feelings, or because she didn't know what it was like to have that deep "one-life" love, and she was scared to try to find it. Maybe she just really doesn't want that...

Let me know... I don't know if any of this made sense.

My girlfriend, Katja, is a full lesbian and does not make deep loving relationships easily, since her parents are/were abusive to her. She keeps telling me that she only wants to be with me and my husband Nils, no one else, and that she would be honored to be a godmother. While part of me is...

What Katja said... My girlfriend, Katja, actually is really excited about being a godmother someday. She is a full lesbian. She does not make deep loving relationships easily, since her parents are/were abusive to her. She keeps telling me that she only wants to be with me and Nils, and no one...

What do you think about having one of your partners (the one that is not the primary or the unicorn) be a godparent if/when you have children? I know it is a long way (about 4 yrs) off in my family, but children are already highly important to me (especially since I already had one son that I...

Thanks... but why do we fight? Thank you for the advice. It helps. I am trying to both live for now but think about what we might do in the future. Kind of a hard balancing act. Last night Nils and I got in a big fight. That always upsets Katja, as her parents had violent abusive fights. Nils...

Thank you for the explanation. It helped. Last night, Nils and i got in a big fight. That always upsets Katja, as her parents had violent abusive fights. Nils and I get loud and yell sometimes, but we never are violent. I finally found out that Nils was feeling a little less loved and that...

I hope what I wrote makes sense. I tend to confuse people in my writing.

Really I am not a person for labels, ever, but I was wondering what the people here thought. This whole polyamory thing is new to me and therefore, extremely interesting. My girlfriend Katja lives with us. She I are very much in love. I am married. While my husband Nils says he loves Katja, and...

New development. I can't believe how happy I am. I told you all about our "friend" Katja from Finland my husband Nils and I met. Well, we have gotten so much closer. We now are calling each other "girlfriend," at least between the three of us. We have had multiple sexual experiences, but always...

Things have changed a lot I do not mean to be using Katja at all. Things have changed A LOT in our house. I will write about it all later when I have time, and when my head is clear. But for now I wanted to say that I have talked to Katja about how she feels, and she says she does not feel that...

I am sorry I did not think of that. I should have, as I have dyslexia, as well. I will do better. Sorry. I hope this helps.

I can not believe something like this has happened to me... but man, am I glad!!! I am so blessed that God brought Katja to me, to us both. :) Love you, girl! :)

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