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Haha, no she's not like that. She is cute and aggressive on dates, but not much of a partier or drinker (at least not that I know of). She meets all these boys through OkC, and they are all ostensibly poly or open themselves. And dates usually don't go this well. She's usually a bit...

Ok that's a good idea.

I have been interested in poly for a decade or so, but only in an officially poly relationship for the last year. We've made 4 official rules, but then dozens of other "potential rules" or "guidelines" or something. She has broken these lesser rules a few times and it resulted in fights. What...

As expected, her "running into him" was more like "we were texting all night and decided to meet up at 3 am, which I normally would never do because it's so late, but I was drunk". I hate it when she downplays things like that. :( Just be honest, even if it's bad, and I'll know you're at...

I know this. This is why I have stopped trying to message them. I don't know how to create confidence out of nothing, and if I try to fake it, it will not work, and if I message without confidence, I will make a bad first impression, which can be unrecoverable. My messages are too sober and...

Ok, now I'm upset. And by that I mean "worried" or "sick to stomach", not "angry". (I don't get angry easily, unless I feel I have been wronged in some way.) She had a brunch first date with A on Friday, it went well and they kissed, but she was not 100% impressed with him. This kind of date...

So we've been together over a year. We love each other, things are good. But this continues to be just as bad as ever. She gets home from work and complains that she is "being assaulted on all sides ... so many boys ... its overwhelming". Yeah, um, I know. :/ I haven't been on a date in...

Ok, maybe I shouldn't have used the word "domestic". And it's not just about being horny. It's about whether you're horny for a long-term domestic partner/more monogamous vs horny for new guys/flings/casual sex/rock stars.

In the book Sperm Wars, one of the main points is that "a woman is far more likely to conceive through a casual fling than through sex with her regular partner" and: Some of the claims in this book make a lot of sense, while others are pretty dubious. I suspected this was one of the more...

In my first officially non-monogamous relationship, we both wanted it from the first date (9 months ago) and we're a pretty awesome couple. She is constantly telling me how great I am and how she can't imagine ever leaving me, she doesn't understand why I'm not constantly surrounded by women...

Yeah, most of the couples I've talked to, the woman has more dates than the man. :/ I already had trouble finding dates because I'm so shy. Now it's going to be even harder. Yeah. She was already doing that, though. She keeps volunteering to limit herself to make it easier on me, but...

It's not really that she's making it a competition. It's that I feel like I can't keep up with her. We have conversations all the time. :) I think we're pretty good at communicating. Better than my last relationship, at least. I mentioned "it feels like a competition" today, and she said...

It feels that way. I was optimistic and excited about how well my first date with someone else had gone, but then when my girlfriend got home much later and told me about hers and how well it went, it kind of snuffed out my mood. "You didn't even kiss her? Why not? Are you sure she's into...

That one got canceled but tonight I went on one with someone different who I've had a crush on for years. It went pretty well! My girlfriend's on a date with someone new, too. I suspect hers is going even more well, but it's ok.

Thanks for the response. We've started writing out some rules, though it's mostly just notes and proposals so far. Maybe "rules" isn't the best word? My attitude will change wildly from one hour to the next, which is frustrating for me and probably for her. Earlier tonight I was happy and...

Hello I've been interested in poly for more than a decade, but have only been in monogamous relationships until the last few years. Strangely enough, because I started dating kind of late, I've actually been interested in poly longer than I've been dating. My last relationship was ambiguously...