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Too bad it wasn`t me. You would`ve gotten laid. :p There`s no greater turn on to me than a woman who`s super direct. Should I even bother to mention that I like women who curse, have mastery over irony, dig bukkakes, and play sports? Of course, that`s ok too, as well as euphemisms. But, what to...

Directly asking for what you want - whether it be a kiss, sex, or verbal approval - has been slandered, and maligned as 'unromantic' at best, if not downright rude. In characteristic hetero-mono-normative can`t win, asking for consent is considered too pansy for men; and, too assertive for...

I have no general opinion on whether porn is good or bad, or what makes porn porn, but I can say that it has been on the menu for me since I was about 15, and a virgin. Even though my fantasies have evolved, I still hold many of them from my early years of porn watching. I remember masturbating...

Very well put. Thank you. Touching vid on the topic... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hpGvLpMKCJM&feature=relmfu Edit: I can`t really relate to the loving someone else more than myself part; but, I think we arrive at the same destination from different points of departure. I think precisely...

lol! Haha. Breaking hearts. ;)

Presumably, to get her off your back. :p

Good point, thank you. Polyamory does sound like a PC word, in the sense that it tries to bring legitimacy to itself, as a minority practice, in the eyes of society at large, to something that may have already been practiced in the past, but had been stigmatized. A little like...

I like the term. I think it`s a better descriptor in my case than polyamory is. Sorry for my ignorance but, why do people hate it? I agree with Ton. Also, I usually want periods of monogamy when I`m meeting someone new, or when rediscovering a long-term relationship. It makes no sense to me to...

To be quite honest, I do not meet a whole lot of people and mostly keep to myself. A lot of my isolation is self-imposed. That, should almost preface any and all discussions about my relationship problems. So, I only deserve so much empathy. I base my poly observations primarily on this forum...

This was years ago, in 2006. The second, and last time I was monogamous. Our mono relationship lasted from 2003-2006. For a couple of months after we had "broken up", I was having sex with both her and an OSO. I was in heaven. Super-charged. Sex had never been so hot. So intimate. My self-esteem...

Exactly. Yep. I also feel I`m not going to get a very open dialog about gender from married couples who are used to chivalry, and the Prince Charming ideal. In the end, poly or not, I`m still back to Darwin and female egg scarcity and male disposability. Which, makes open relationships seem like...

Nice to meet you. :o I wouldn`t mind being called "lifestyle single" to distinguish myself from single people who are looking to shack up, but just haven`t met someone who fits the bill yet. Just so you know, there are quite a few of us, and a Facebook group. Unfortunately, it tends toward...

Thank you both NovemberRain and km34 for asking. I guess I should have spent a few words on how I define myself. I can only speak for my own definition of open, or open relationships (the plural part is important to me). --------- The differences to me between open vs. poly or swingers (or...

Thank you. :) Unfortunately, I don`t live in any of the meet up locations, so I am heavily dependent upon online groups for now. Or, at least, until I`m able to form a cohesive group where I live (we already have a small poly group).

I`ve searched the internet for open relationships forums and resources and I seem to have found out that both are rather scant compared to poly forums and resources. Have you had the same experience? I wonder if precisely the reasons I identify more with open relationships than poly are to...

No, I felt twu wub in my first relationship (in my teens). But, within six months, I realized I wanted to experiment. I`ve also been in a mono relationship for 3 years, although out of compromise. I felt mono was the only way I could have regular sex. I basically dragged it as long as I could...

Fair enough. Good luck!

I would humbly suggest that your relationship with your bestie needs work. Throughout the thread, I haven`t gotten the sense of why she`d be your best friend at all. What do you admire about her? So far, she sounds like a nightmare. I`ll throw in my vote that the "therapeutic" angle sounds...

None. I have gone to one poly meeting, and I met a cute girl there. There was a bi guy checking me out as well, I guess, but I was not physically attracted to him. I`m supposed to go out to "teach her pool" this weekend, but I haven`t contacted her. I`m kind of freaking out. It would be my...

Interesting, that seems to sort of retool the bad boy vs. nice guy dichotomy. Which, I guess, is the female`s own version of the virgin-whore complex. And, to my mind, it certainly blows the women are less interested in male physical beauty or casual sex out of water. I know that, personally...