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Here`s an outline back when I studied those videos. I don`t know how intelligible it is. Feel free to ask me questions. Great Apes --- evolutionary biology on the level of individual competition (vs. species/group cooperation) a) greater sex dimorphism; b) gorillas - pair-bonding and...

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1720 You`d have to sift through there. Sure. The argument is that in chimps, especially, but (perhaps) even in bonobos, the female is routinely intimidated and battered (i.e., "coerced") to have sex. Chimp females do not normally copulate with...

Yes, I would guess that would be the argument in Sex at Dawn. I just wanted to offer the counter-argument, but you would have to go further than the first 3 minutes to see it explicitly made. I think we`ve reached an impasse here. To be quite honest, I will probably never read Sex at Dawn...

I`m surprised you would ask, since "sex-negative" is in this site`s terms and definitions thread you helped compile. I would go further than the definition there, however, to say that sex-negativity includes a hierarchy between "love" and sex, which usually extends itself to "mind/spirit" vs...

Yes, I am familiar with the title and the back-to-nature argument, and I can see how it`d be popular with most polyamorists. If you haven`t seen it already, here`s a different perspective: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mzdqyXtPbbE&feature=relmfu...

I`m in the same spot between a rock and a hard place. I am trying to meet people both in non-monogamous groups, and LGBT clubs. I might as well fag it out. j/k ;)

Something else I feel should be acknowledged is that jealousy is an integral part of monogamous relationships as well, and probably more so. Why were you looking at her? Who are you going out with? :rolleyes:

Cool, thanks. :)

I`m a little offended by the site, though I posted there and I have a half-appreciation for Jessica Write. The title might as well be, The Whipped Man Project. j/k :D Dan Savage, ftw.

What's the difference between a N-shaped and a Z-shaped relationship (other than all the letters of the alphabet in between)?

I`m sorry about your situation. My limit is...3-strikes, you`re out (Mets fan :D). I wish you luck. ------------ Edit: Just so it doesn`t sound arbitrary or douchey...the reason for my limit is this --- the first time around, I will communicate to whomever it is that I feel what they did is...

I wonder about the wingwoman thing. I had a very turbulent open relationship once, which was "tell-all" (on her insistence) because we had been friends and confidants for 7 years prior to getting sexually involved. And, basically, I told her that if we were going to have an open relationship, I...

Cool to see a fellow atheist in the forum. :)

I find polyamorists online (I`ve never met an example of the species IRL:(:D) are exceptionally educated about a couple things: a) the ability to feel feelings (including jealousy); b) the ability to know the difference between feeling something and acting; c) the ability to take...

:) Yes, I`ve used that term. Also "free", although I think it sounds a bit utopian. A friend of mine used the term "free" to describe bisexuality, which is cool in my case because I am bicurious. But, lately I`ve been using both poly and bi. I avoid the -amorous part sometimes, sometimes not. I...

I identify with the description, yet I`m bummed out I have to ascribe a negative term to myself. :mad: :D

Would you mind me asking if you`re single as a lifestyle choice or temporarily? I am interested because I am single by choice. Would like to talk to people who are, as well. :)

Good point. Yes, I certainly have been feeling for a while now like a sexual minority. Even before becoming conscious of my bicuriosity. Polysexual? :p If I were to give myself a sub-label, it would be "sex-positive polyamory." But, even that is a little bit of a misnomer in my case. I think...

I feel it`s an identity, yes. I was just having a conversation in the car with two co-workers, and they are both talking about marriage and I realize I had nothing to say. I didn`t identify with any of their feelings. So...I shut my trap! :cool:

Well, I hope to see that one day! Maybe I'm the one who`s not so young anymore. ;)