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I need some insights from my fellow poly friends. I'm essentially trying to figure out if I need to separate/divorce with my wife, and I'm torn on it. Here's the back story: I've always been extremely monogamous. Once I met my wife-to-be, I didn't notice other women, even if they were flirting...

There's a poly pizza social tomorrow (Saturday November 5) with the "Loving More" meetup group, formerly known as Active Polyamory. It's located at Robano's Italian Pizza Kitchen (which is at 10057 Riverside Dr in North Hollywood, for those of you that are local but not yet part of the meetup...

Our one-year mark It's almost that time to get my one-year chip... I've been successfully poly for almost 12 months now. It was a wild ride in the beginning: opening up our marriage and transitioning from mono to poly. I had a number of emotional ups and downs, and I was completely innocent...

For our V/triad, we're great when we're all living together, and it sucks when one or more of us are apart. But I know other poly groups that are the opposite: it works great for them in separate living arrangements, but they wouldn't want to all live under the same roof. It really depends on...

For our tribe, yes. At least, I hope so, and if not, we'd talk about it. We're poly-fi, and consider everyone to be equals/primaries. We have assigned date nights, kids' nights, and family nights, so we all get time with each other. This actually works out extremely well, better than as just a...

Coming out to parents I have a similar conundrum, but with additional complexity. I'm interested in someday having kids with an OSO, in addition to the kids I already have with my primary. So it's not just an issue of coming out as polyamorous to my parents, it's an issue of introducing my...

Status report It's been six months since we opened up our marriage, and over three months since my last post on this forum. I want to let everyone know how we're doing. WE'RE DOING GREAT! Don't get me wrong, we've definitely had some rocky times along the way, mostly due to me in my...

Thank you again, everyone, for your kind words. I agree. When I discussed that event with Bree and Anna, they were both surprised that it had had such an impact on me. I don't think they thought anything of it at the time. That said, I *did* tell Bree that I wanted her attention at the time...

I apologize if I got my terminology wrong. I've seen the word "triad" defined on the web as any form of three-person relationship, i.e., a triangle or a V. In any case, you are correct. Our relationship is strictly a V, not a triangle, with my wife as the fulcrum. That's a very good question...

A cowgirl and her mule I had a long talk with Anna over the weekend and cleared the air on a LOT of issues. I offered to let Bree and Anna start their own life together as a simple, mono couple (particularly since Anna is VERY mono herself), but she doesn't want that. She really wants me to...

As always, I want to thank all of you for your great replies. This is a wonderful group, and I am indebted to all of you and your support as I go through this journey. :love:

Riding the storm First, a question (forgive my ignorance, I'm still a newbie here): what are the meanings of the following terms: cowboy, cowgirl, and mule? My ideal would be for Claire to join us, forming an N. I could definitely love both my Bree and Claire, and I think we could all be happy...

Temptation, and our two-month poly anniversary It's now been two months since we formed our poly V-- me, my wife, Bree (the fulcrum), and her OSO/wife, Anna. The two of them were pining over each other for seven months prior, so it's a total of nine months in some sense, but the V itself was...

You are absolutely correct. I do see how wonderful a poly relationship is for Bree, and I want the same thing for myself. I've been in love with at least one other person during my marriage, but I would never have acted on it or even admitted it to anyone. Doing so would have been considered...

Thank you for sharing your story with us, WaterWolf. I'm a new member on this group and just went through a somewhat similar experience, when my wife wanted to add another person to our marriage and turn our mono relationship into a poly vee. I felt hurt, betrayed, jealous, angry... all of the...

Will do! You don't have to tell me twice on that one! :D I agree. Since going poly, my wife and I have been able to talk about things we never would have before, such as the fact that I still have feelings for one of my old high school crushes (who is also one of my best friends). I never...

It's now day 31 since we started our first poly relationship: a vee with me, my wife (the "fulcrum"... she likes that word, says it's a lot sexier than "pivot" 😛), and her wife. Over that short time, I felt extreme jealousy, love, fear, compersion, hurt, excitement, betrayal, and commitment...

> Also, how do I try to talk to them more without annoying them? Disclaimer: I'm completely new to poly myself, only a month into it, so take my opinions with a grain of salt. I'm in the NRE phase as well! ;-) For our new triad, communication is everything. Granted, I'm sure we talk so much...

Local groups www.meetup.com seems to list a number of live poly groups in many/most major cities. Just do a search for "Polyamory" under your zip code.

Being cautious Thank you again for all your words of caution. I shared all this information with Bree, including the link "http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4300&highlight=moved", to make sure we pay heed to it. I want to make sure this relationship works. Fortunately, Bree and...