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When I'm angry I need to vent. If I don't I can make myself physically ill (if I hold it in for long enough). I try to respect others' desires about WHO I vent to, but ultimately it's my choice. I vent to MC about TGIB. I vent to TGIB about MC. Because they are similar in some ways they often...

Please don't assume and put words in someone else's mouth. This is something that really irritates me. Unless you're there in that same geographical location, you have NO idea what the job market is like. I don't need meaningful work. I don't even need to support my family. I need to be able to...

I have a problem with graffiti if it's: 1) Vulgar or obscene 2) Gang related or promoting violence 3) Obscuring the useful information already present (like on a highway or street sign) Granted, that covers a LOT of graffiti (that I've seen, at least) but if it's done to actually be art, I...

I had a *squee* moment last night- I'm taking a class that's supposed to help me with stress management (we'll see) and since some of my stress is due to the LDR nature of my partnership with TGIB, it's come up in class. However, my classmates and the teacher also know I'm married with kids, so...

The list I linked to had me wondering if, since many of us agree that poly is not more "evolved" than monogamy, just different, it would be fair to say that poly is a more "developed" way of having relationships. But if I look at my partners and where I figure we all fall on the scale, even that...

Even more reason to, then. Other organizers may need some evidence from attendees to make changes. Worst case scenario is they blow you off, right? You don't lose anything. I suppose it's possible they could try to black-ball you from the conference. If you'd like to go back, that would be a...

Thanks to reddit I found this today. It's been a long time since my Educational Psychology classes, and if we went over these classifications it was so brief that I don't remember it. As I read though the descriptions I was reminded more and more of a description of a possible journey into...

Reading your thoughts about APW, especially in combination with and contrast to your other conference, has been very interesting. I don't know APW at all, being on the West Coast, but I have some experience with other types of conferences and I wonder- would the people putting on the conference...

I know lots of people who are uncomfortable with polyamory, but I wouldn't say they hate it. I wonder if "prejudiced against polyamory" would be more appropriate. "Prejudiced" speaks more towards an unreasonable and close-minded dislike, hate, or fear.

Unfortunate, but we're human. We often say things not realizing all the information/possible ramifications. Commendable of you to try to help her, but introducing a new roommate plus an open marriage was likely too much adjustment all at once. Hindsight is 20/20 and all that, but if you...

Yes, I've experienced this too! Sometimes, on the rougher parenting days when I get no time to myself, let alone with either of my Boys, I still feel it! I love how your posts always make me think. This time my thoughts are mostly here: I find myself wondering how much of this process MC went...

In this specific instance, it was truly a case of not knowing that bi was an option. I was actually annoyed with a couple of my close friends when I told them, and their response was, "Well, DUH!" My response to them was, "Well, how come nobody told me?!" I sort of knew about gay and lesbian...

Yeah, I don't tend to use "metamour" much either, for basically the same reason. MC and TGIB are friends in their own right, and will hopefully be roommates in the future. That's enough labels for me. I can see thinking the word is a little silly, but hating it just seemed a bit strong. And it...

Out of curiosity, why do you hate the word? It just means your partner's partner. It has nothing to do with sleeping with someone (I'd venture a guess that most metamours never sleep together.) I mean, it's not the greatest made-up word ever, but then neither is "polyamory." Mixing Greek and...

Different point of view does not equal confused. No, not in the sense that you're using the word. A sudden realization? Sure. A sudden realization that MUST be acted upon RIGHT NOW?? No. Understand, sure. Even sympathize with, especially now, after Matt's more extensive explanation, which laid...

I read your post in the Meetings and Events sections because I thought it was going to be about a general poly meetup or event in the Austin area. Having read it, I didn't reply because: - I am not a poly woman looking to date. - I am not half of a couple trying to open our relationship. I am...

Good for you for addressing everything Blazen! I hope it all works out for you the way you want!

Nadya, that's probably going to come up when I eventually discuss being poly with my mom. Her worry/argument will be that it's detrimental to my husband/marriage, regardless of how many times MC has said he's fine with it, so I'm going to have to just leave it to him to convince her (or not) of...

I've been wondering, though, if "Why not?" opens the door too easily to the endless list of anti-poly sentiment. I can already hear in my head some possible responses like jealousy, lack of commitment and faithfulness, insecurity, damaging to children and families, immoral... I could address...

Okay, this is fair. I will take back any accusation of lying if the person says, "I'm sorry that I didn't think this through more, but I was mistaken/wrong earlier when I said "x". I really think/want "y"." However, if someone is deliberately avoiding some self-examination of what they really...