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And you've been disagreed with several times as well. Historically monogamy may have been about ownership, but so were many poly arrangements: a man and his harem, for example, or the practice of one man having multiple wives. Even mistresses (in Western culture, at least) were historically...

In the comments several issues I had with the article are brought up. I understand that she focusing on poly as it's portrayed in the media, which is not a topic I'm well-versed in, but I feel that her definition of what a "rule" is was not adequately explained before she discussed how bad rules...

To be fair, your first reply could be read as a little insulting. Instead of you could have just said, "Thank you for your interest. However, I am not interested in dating a couple, as I prefer to date individuals (or one-on-one, or however you want to say it). Happy New Year to you as well."...

I like the comments better than the article. *shrug*

Total, 100% agreement. In my mind, if someone is being abusive they've lost their right to privacy. Really, privacy can only exist with trust. I can maintain my privacy with my relationships because MC and TGIB each trust me to tell them what they need to know. If you break someone's trust by...

This is similar to the way I was raised. My mother was (and still can be) very non-confrontational, so the atmosphere around our house was generally "Don't say/do anything to upset Dad!" My reaction, though, was to say "Fuck it" to tiptoeing on eggshells around anyone. Through my 20's if I...

This is a fair point, so I take back my facepalm. But when all we have are your words, clarity of what's written is REALLY important, so I'm not going to apologize, but I will thank you for the clarification. I will point out, though, that MOST of the responses you've received have been trying...

My only comment is that hopefully Sweetie can realize that he isn't the cause of yours and Hubby's issues- they existed LONG before you met Sweetie. Nor is he the cause of your Hubby suddenly (and unilaterally) deciding that what has been the agreement for a couple decades is no longer...

TITLE OF THE THREAD: Seriously?!? *facepalm*

With the new information you've given us, all I can add is: counseling, for all three of you, both as a group and individually. You need professional help. In my opinion, you have issues that go beyond the scope of this forum. To move past your upbringing, learn healthy coping skills, learn...

Okay. Here goes, though you may not want to hear it: YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS TRIAD. You are not being overly emotional, not here, anyway. Maybe you are there. I don't know, but your needs are expressed fairly reasonably here. There is fixing needed, but you can't do it alone. You have...

Agreed. For instance, the question about kissing someone unknown multiple times had me answering "very upset", I think, but there's room for interpretation about whether I would be upset about the kissing or about not knowing the person. For the record, if we're both at a party I would certainly...

Maybe "abuser" was a little harsh (although I wouldn't discount the possibility of emotional/mental abuse) but "user" is completely apt. Lots of emotionally immature people use others. The saddest part is that they don't even realize they're doing it, so they have no reason to try to change.

Marcus, I don't know what post you read, because there are several red flags here: Huge red flag. Perhaps not a red flag, but definitely a yellow one that needs to be resolved, which doesn't sound likely, as all parties would have to be willing to work together on a solution. Flag. Perhaps...

I haven't read the "Framing Intimacy" thread, but reading this part my immediate thought was, "Well...yeah!" I've known many people who had a fear or dislike of certain kinds of intimacies. Sometimes it was intimacy with others, sometimes it was intimacy of themselves. Sometimes it was both, and...

Haha, no, I don't mind at all if you take that idea and try to do something with it! That's why I put it out there after all! You're welcome! :)

While I certainly understand the limitations number crunching can put on a project, my first thought is: why have it only be about CURRENT relationships?? What if there was a survey done where people could identify as "non-monogamous for all relationships", "non-monogamous for most...

Not bad. I disagree with the idea that one compromises less in poly- in my experience you compromise as much or more! It's too bad the "small and unscientific" sample was so small. Interviewing a straight woman with multiple partners would have helped both the "this is for guys to get more sex"...

I took the survey, but I don't understand why you're presenting this as "couples" research. If you want your research to include people in polyamorous relationships, what about collecting data from people in triads, quads, etc.?

Yeah, the bank doesn't care about the relationship among the people buying the house. Friends can buy property together, family members, business partners, whatever. What matters is how you decide to hold the title. I know in CA married folks tend to hold property in joint tenancy unless they...