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Well, there's a difference between someone who is not only monogamous themselves but is only interested in a monogamous relationship of two and someone who is monogamous themselves but willing/able to be in a polyamorous relationship. Choosing to be in a poly relationship means choosing to do...

Haha! The love of Bowie is everywhere. Another message board I'm on has a loooong running gag about Bowie's pants. It's even involved cakes in the past.

A while ago nycindie put together an awesome post full of links to various resources, which includes looking for poly-friendly professionals. If you haven't seen it, that post is here: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showpost.php?p=133686&postcount=19 I haven't looked for poly-friendly...

Even if he says now that he'd "never" be comfortable with her having sex with another man, there's no way he or anyone else can know that for sure. People grow and change, as evidenced by SO many stories here. Just like "I'll always love you" and "I'll never lie to you", while those statements...

Might I suggest you both put the agreement in writing and sign it, especially the bit about not accusing you of wrongdoing as long as you've stuck to the agreement? I understand there might be feelings of "We don't need this, we're grown ups" but looking at the history-- you might.

Yeah, yeah, whatever to you too. Funny how you're willing to get all analytical about one side of it, but not so much other other. Doesn't really give me much reason to give your input any consideration. As you pointed out, these people may not be real, but as you also said they represent a...

Pointing out something that irritated or aggravated one is not being negative. YOU are the one being negative with your sarcasm and condescending attitude (Yeah, calling someone "Sherlock" isn't name calling, but it's hardly complimentary either). Why is it that so often when someone takes...

I totally agree with this and have said something similar before, but I feel like you put it better. In that vein, there's also How "out" are you as poly, really? And why?, which I've quite enjoyed reading. I'm out about being agnostic. I'm mostly out about being bi (I'm really pan, but I...

I don't do online dating, and I don't go to bars/clubs to meet people either. For me, meeting people online or in person has always revolved around school/work or my hobbies and interests. I've met people through choirs, Anime/Sci-Fi clubs, Renaissance Faires, webcomic/author websites, or sites...

Interesting. I never approached being open/poly as something "we" did or were, probably because MC is (mostly) mono. However, since we do have the years of marriage and the kids, house, shared bank accounts, etc there is still a lot of "we" in my thinking. I definitely try to approach anything...

Right now neither MC nor TGIB are dating anyone else, so I haven't had to deal with this exact issue, but it has come up in regards to family members and close friends, but in situations where I'd be seen as more the "trash talker". Both MC and TGIB have family members and close friends that I...

1) No one "has to" put up with any kind of partner. They choose to. 2) How about sympathizing with the people who deal with partners like the man in this story? Yeah, she gets way overly worked up over it, but how is, "It's nothing, don't worry about it" better than just telling her what's on...

I don't think you're wrong. I can understand feeling disrespected when someone who isn't aware of your situation hits on your husband, since he presents publicly as "taken". It may help to keep in mind, though, that there's a chance (however small) that these women are aware of poly and are...

Ooooo, thanks so much for posting this! As you and I have already discussed, I'm much more a Neil fan than an Amanda fan, but I definitely respect her and I'm so happy that she and Neil found something that works for them!

Her guilt is not something you can do anything about. That is something for HER to work on HERSELF, much like you have to work on your issues with jealousy. I've been in her shoes. I understand the guilt. But it isn't for you to fix. Nor, really, would you seeing other people help, because...

You may or may not have heard, but the "Kill the Gays" bill in Uganda is set to be passed before the end of this year. There is a petition at https://petitions.whitehouse.gov/petition/grant-refugee-status-lgbtqia-people-and-cut-foreign-aid-until-repeal-kill-gays-bill-uganda/LXXHQG8P to include...

Haha! I was just getting ready to say "JINX!" or "what NR said!" :P

No, that's the problem. They're estimating correctly how much thought went into the responses- none. It's like writing a cover letter for a job. If you put thought into it and make it specific to that company, your odds of a positive response increase. If you really want a response from me...

Thought of you all on this thread when I saw this: http://www.mandatory.com/2012/11/13/ok-cupid-an-exploration-into-just-how-low-some-guys-will-go Not saying all guys on OKC are like this, but it was definitely a reality check about who might be out there!

What about a break? Are you able to take some time, some space to figure out what you want and what you're willing to tolerate before having to make an "all or nothing" choice? If you can, I would think one of two things is likely to happen- you discover you're better off without the mismatched...