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  1. TheBlackSwede

    Broken rules, poor communication, feelings of inadequacy

    Oh, this is certainly true... but I think often times a woman sees a man out by himself and thinks, "Is there a REASON this guy is alone?" Having only 1 other person with you negates this.
  2. TheBlackSwede

    Broken rules, poor communication, feelings of inadequacy

    Yeah, most of that stuff is douche-baggy, but trying to meet people while alone seldom seems to work. I think women fear a completely solo man.
  3. TheBlackSwede

    Broken rules, poor communication, feelings of inadequacy

    lol! http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cock%20block http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=wingman note that these articles seem to be oriented towards people looking for one-night stands... while I am looking to meet women to have sex with, I'm not really looking for...
  4. TheBlackSwede

    Broken rules, poor communication, feelings of inadequacy

    Thanks, you two. It feels good to come here with some good news and a positive perspective. As for finding a poly community here, we haven't really been looking too hard. I know there are some others about. Some friends of ours apparently have a bunch of poly friends, but we've sorta been...
  5. TheBlackSwede

    Broken rules, poor communication, feelings of inadequacy

    First, I want to say thank you to everyone who has replied to this and offered me their sincere honest advice. It is very much appreciated, and it helped both myself and my wife tremendously. Second, I apologize for the tremendous delay in my reply. A lot has happened since then, and I felt I...
  6. TheBlackSwede

    Broken rules, poor communication, feelings of inadequacy

    My wife is very anti-drugs, and is not doing any of them. She even insisted that he not do them around her. As I said, he says he has stopped altogether. But knowing cocaine like I do (to quote Rick James, "Cocaine is a helluva drug"), I have a hard time believing he's quit altogether after...
  7. TheBlackSwede

    Broken rules, poor communication, feelings of inadequacy

    Okay, now I think you're blowing things further out of proportion than I did. I'm not so sure it was intentional that she hid the ball on the guy's skills. She may have been in denial. We have a very open honest relationship and we talk everything through. One of the reasons she got upset with...
  8. TheBlackSwede

    Broken rules, poor communication, feelings of inadequacy

    I don't have any reason to call him a liar, so I'm not going to assume that he is one. There's also a difference between someone who has done coke from time to time, and someone who is a cokehead. I think, in regards to steroids, that most people have a strongly negative connotation with...
  9. TheBlackSwede

    Broken rules, poor communication, feelings of inadequacy

    Wow. Thank you all for the replies. There's a lot of good things to think about in there, some very solid advice. Open vs poly: yeah, this is primarily an open relationship/swinging, I guess, if we're getting really specific with labels. She and I are primary, but we're open to secondary...
  10. TheBlackSwede

    Broken rules, poor communication, feelings of inadequacy

    My wife and I recently decided to explore our sexuality more. We opened ourselves up to other partners. We have done this in the past, but wound up hurting each other. With the growth we've experienced in the years since, the comfort we have with each other, and confidence we have in ourselves...
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